Dear Wife, I Hate Your Fake Orgasms
I am going to be very blunt and honest with you. Do not take offence by what I am going to tell you. I am explaining to you how this act of deception affects your man. It may be a little abrasive in some spots but that's because I am not going to beat around the bush.
Ladies, it is condescending and patronizing to fake an orgasm during sex. When you fake it during sex you're turning it into pity sex. How degrading is that to your man? If your man is not a novice when it comes to sex, and especially if you are in a long-term relationship with him, he knows when you're faking it. I don't know why women think that there is no possible way a man could know that she is being dishonest with him in the bedroom. Did you forget that he is in you and can feel every little thing that is happening in your vagina when you orgasm? He has paid attention to what turns you on and what you do and don't like in the bedroom, and you think that he hasn't paid any attention to his favorite part of sex? (And no his favorite part is not his own orgasm, it is yours) You can tense up your body, change your breathing, and moan all you want but, to the man that knows you in every way, it will not work. All you are accomplishing is to make your man feel betrayed by you. He wants to take care of you, and you just basically slapped him across the face and said in this area you just failed. He is sharing with you an intimate part of himself and you are mocking it and him. You make him feel like there must be something wrong with him and this can led him to have a diminished sense of self-worth. He will start to not show you as much affection as he did and will not give you the physical attention that he used to (which then makes you think he's getting it somewhere else). He still loves you but can't believe you would try and play him like that. He will act like nothing's wrong, when really he has never felt more betrayed and useless. You also will start to lose some of his trust and respect for you. If you have a man that truly cares about you and does everything he can to make you happy, why would you reciprocate that with insult and deceit?
Most men will not confront you about it because they do feel betrayed and hart broken about it (I know men are not supposed to show emotion). Also, it is embarrassing to your man, and he doesn't want to believe it is true. Another big reason he doesn't say anything is because he knows it will turn into an argument and there's no way he can prove it. The men that have said something will tell you that their woman got defensive, mad, and denied it. You denying it and him not having any way to prove it will not change that fact that he knows you did it.
(This paragraph if not speaking towards most women, just the select few) So the reason that women do it is because they care about their man and want to take care of him. Right? If that's true then why do some women gloat about it? As if doing that means they are somehow sexually superior. Honestly, gloating about mocking your man in this very personal way just shows how much of a bitch you can be. I didn't realize that sex was completely dependent on a women having an erection. When a woman has her orgasm during sex does the sex stop? No. Don't confuse the lack of sex's dependence on your sexual performance with sexual superiority.
He is having sex with you to share that with you not just to get his own orgasm. You're making it seem like it's something you do begrudgingly and just want it over with; like it's some kind of chore. If you are really not in the mood and don't feel like having sex, and probably won't orgasm if you do, just tell him. He won't want to have sex if he knows you will not be getting as much out of it as he will. Even if your man hasn't caught on YET, because he trusts you and doesn't think you would do that to him, why lie to him? Does he not deserve your honesty? If you really care about him be honest and real with him. Relationships need honesty and communication, this situation is not any different.
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