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27 Things Married People Wish Someone Told Them Before They Got Married

This is some damn good advice, y'all.

We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what they wish they'd known before getting married, and here are their totally un-bride-ld responses:

1. "I wish I knew then how much my future husband farted. Don't get me wrong — it's hilarious. It's just...never-ending."

2. "That it's OK to not always like each other. But you have to choose to love them every day, even when you don't like them very much."

3. "That intimacy is important, but it doesn't always have to mean sex. Sometimes just holding each other can still be an important physical connection."

4. "That my spouse isn't a mind reader. Just because how you feel is obvious to you doesn't mean it's obvious to them. Tell them what you need them to know."

5. "That you don't have to follow societal norms. My husband and I sleep in different rooms because it works for us. We sleep better and, thus, like each other more."

6. "I wish I knew to marry the person my spouse already was instead of the potential I saw in them."

7. "I didn't realize how difficult dealing with in-laws would be. I had to learn how to communicate with a family that works very differently than mine does."

8. "That I would immediately be pressured to have kids by everyone. I couldn't even have a stomachache without being asked if I was pregnant."

9. "That marriage is fighting about ridiculous things like both of you knowing the milk in the fridge is expired and neither of you throwing it out."

10. "Poop talk is more common than you think."

11. "That you don't have to do everything together all the time."

12. "I wish I knew my husband's spending habits. I discovered pretty quickly after we were married that I'd have to be in charge of the budget so that he doesn't blow money on things we don't need."

13. "That it's actually OK to go to bed angry.

14. "I wish I knew how much more I would love my husband as the years went by. On the day of my wedding, I thought my love was the strongest it could ever be. I was wrong.

15. "I wish I knew what a pain in the ass it is to change your last name."

16. "That there might be some post-wedding blues. My husband and I had already been living together before we got married, and we didn't have children right away. So for a while, it felt like there was nothing to look forward to.

17. "I wish I'd known I was a lesbian before I married a man. Do some self-reflection before you jump into something just because you feel pressured to do so.

18. "That all of the little things that annoy you will be multiplied by 10 after you get married."

19. "I wish I'd known that our taxes would go way up and stay high until we had kids.

20. "I wish I'd been told that a wedding doesn't make a marriage."

21. "Know your spouse's beliefs about having children and raising them. The biggest arguments my husband and I have are over how to raise our kids!"

22. "That marriage isn't 50/50. The only thing that's 50/50 is divorce. Marriage is 100/100.

23. "That graciously and quietly picking up some slack when your partner forgets to close the closet door or wash the dishes goes a long way toward keeping the peace."

24. "That sometimes, just sitting in silence together is the most satisfying thing ever."

25. "That when you get married, you become your spouse's primary source of emotional support. You'll be the first they tell that they got that promotion, but you're also going to be their main source of support when they get passed over for that promotion. And you'll have to balance your own feelings with caring for theirs. Twelve years in, I'm still mastering that balance."

26. "That nothing worth having is easy.

27. "Making communication your biggest priority is crucial. My husband and I are at a point where we can say, 'I hear you, and I disagree,' without arguing. Well, except when the conversation is about Kanye."

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Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.