21 Single People Get Real About What They Wish They Could Tell Their Married Friends

    "I'm not broken because I'm single. So don't act like I am."

    We asked single people in the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what they want their married friends to know, and their responses were relatable and real:

    1. "Stop telling your spouse all of my business. I know that you two have 'no secrets,' but think about how you would feel if I told my significant other you had to go to the ER because your tampon got stuck."


    2. "I'm so glad you're excited about married life, but you don't need to post wedding pictures on social media every week with a caption like, 'I can't believe we've been married for six weeks already!' We get it — you're married."


    3. "Just because I'm single and one of your other friends is single doesn't mean we're perfect for each other."

    4. "On the flip side of the coin, please set me up with your single guy friends! Finding someone is really difficult, and if you like this person, there's a strong chance that I will, too. And then we can double date!"


    5. "Don't push us out of your lives just because you're married now. There will come a time when you'll need good friends in your life again, and if you've pushed us all away, you'll be pretty lonely."


    6. "Please don't bicker in front of me. It's incredibly awkward."

    7. "Sometimes I look at what you guys have and worry that it'll never happen for me. I wish I could tell you that, but I'm afraid it'll make me look pathetic, so I always put on a smile when I'm with you."

    —Lauren Kimberly, Facebook

    8. "Your spouse doesn't have to come along every time we hang out. It's OK for you to spend time with your friends without them sometimes."


    9. "If you tell me I'm being 'picky' one more time, I'll ask you why you settled."

    10. "Consider buying gifts for your friends when they reach special milestones, too! Remember that we've celebrated your engagements, bridal showers, weddings, baby showers, etc. So if something happens in our lives that we're excited about — like getting a promotion or a new pet — try to celebrate in small ways with us, too."


    11. "I'm not broken because I'm single. So don't act like I am."


    12. "Your partner is a part of you and I want to get to know them as well — so if I tell you they're invited to a party or outing, bring them!"

    13. "Be sensitive when you complain about your spouse being too 'needy' or calling you too much — remember, I'm at home alone with nothing but my dog and UberEats."


    14. "Just because marriage is right for you, doesn't mean it's right for everyone."


    15. "Please don't spend our entire time hanging out talking about your spouse. Update me on any major news about them, then give it a rest. I'm here to talk about you."

    16. "Dating really is as bad now as we say it is."


    17. "Check in on us every once in a while. We don't have a built-in support system like you do, and it's difficult to reach out to you sometimes because we feel like we're burdening you."


    18. "Never set us up on blind dates without telling us beforehand. My friend did that to me once, and I was left sitting there awkwardly with a guy I didn't like while my friend and her husband made out next to us."

    19. "Please stop only referring to your spouse as 'my husband' or 'my wife.' Say their name — I'll know who you're talking about!"


    20. "We completely understand that things have changed and you have less time for your single friends now. So it's OK if when we catch up it's not just like 'old times.'"


    21. "Oh, and if you're going out as a couple with your single friend, cut down on some of that PDA, please!"

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    Some responses have been edited for length and clarity.