Community·Posted on Sep 10, 2017What Do You Wish People Knew About Self-Harm?There are a lot of misconceptions out there.by Anna BorgesBuzzFeed News ReporterFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink Self-harm or self-injury refers to hurting yourself on purpose and is associated with various mental illnesses, trauma, or abuse. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Jenny Chang / BuzzFeed / Via buzzfeed.com Most often, people use it as a coping mechanism, because they don't have or haven't found other healthy coping skills, according to the National Alliance on Mental Health. The urge to self-harm isn't uncommon, but because people often keep their habit a secret, a lot of people have misconceptions about who does it, why they do it, or what it means. So if you self-harm or have self-harmed in the past, we want to know: What do you wish people knew about it? Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Al Boardman / alboardman.tumblr.com / Via giphy.com Maybe you want people to know that you're not "doing it for attention." Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF The N / Via ehc-neuwied.info Or that "doing it for attention" isn't necessarily a bad thing, because maybe it was the only way you felt you could signal you needed help. Maybe you want to share some basic etiquette requests, like how people should really resist on commenting on your scars. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Netflix / Via giphy.com "What are those scars from?" can be a really invasive question if you don't know a person, FYI. Maybe you'd want to clear up the misconception that self-harming automatically means you're suicidal. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF NBC / Via reactiongifs.com Or the idea that "self-harm" means the same thing for everyone. Tap to play or pause GIF Tap to play or pause GIF Act III Productions / Via tenor.com Self-harm in the media is most often portrayed as cutting, but that isn't the only way people injure themselves. Whatever it is, share it in the anonymous form or in the comments below and your answer could appear in an upcoming BuzzFeed Health post.