17 Signs You Should Actually Break Up
Breakups suck, but crappy relationships suck more.
There are a lot of obvious reasons breakups happen, like infidelity, constant screaming matches, or mismatched future ~hopes and dreams~.
But sometimes, things aren't so much actively wrong as they are just NOT RIGHT.
To help you deal with any relationship uncertainty, we talked to a few experts who shared the common red flags that things probably aren't going to work out.
Obviously no one but you REALLY knows all the details and nuances of your relationship and whether it should end. And, as with any relationship problem, an important step in deciding how to move forward is talking to your partner first. But if you feel like you've tried everything and you're still questioning things, see if any of these bad signs ring a bell.
1. The quirks and habits that were NBD before are now driving you freaking crazy.
2. You choose to spend time with your friends, your job, or your Netflix account more often than with your partner.
3. Things aren't really moving forward and there's no good explanation for it.
4. You've broken up and gotten back together more than once.
5. If there was a physical component to your relationship before, it's pretty much dead now.
6. Or sex is pretty much the only thing going right with you two.
7. You spend a decent amount of time thinking about what else is out there — and if those people might be better for you.
8. You bicker all the effing time about pretty much anything.
9. You're going through the motions of your relationship just because.
10. Their negative personality traits have gotten worse.
11. You're super jealous and suspicious of them more often than not.
12. One of you is still hung up on an ex.
This should be a serious deal breaker for any romantic relationship, says Meyers. It shows that you're not emotionally all in and no relationship can move forward if someone is still living in the past. You both deserve better than that.
13. You find yourself thinking that your relationship is ~better than nothing~.
14. You constantly feel like you're not a priority to them.
15. Your timelines are just off.
~Wrong timing~ might seem like the oldest line in the book, but it can be a legit relationship killer, says Sussman. Are you wanting more of a commitment than that person is ready or willing to give you right now? Are your schedules totally at odds? Are you guys just in different places in life (literally or figuratively)?
"You definitely want to have a conversation about where you stand and what you want," says Sussman. "And if the conversation plays out that you're really on two different pages, it may be time to break up."