Note: This post briefly mentions suicide.
1. "She didn’t respect that we didn’t want to have kids. When we got married, his mom kept pressuring us about having a kid even though we didn’t want one. We went on an extended vacation with her a couple of years after we got married. She was acting super weird the whole time and being really nice. She was making my meals and lots of smoothies. During the vacation, I lost my birth control and couldn’t find it. When we were packing, I opened her drawer, and I found it in her room. I found crushed prenatal vitamins, and I found herbal fertility smoothies."
2. "Looking back, there were signs. My spouse is the oldest and is the most successful and healthiest out of all of her siblings. She is the only one with a college education (graduate degree). She is very successful in her field and continues to seek new challenges. Her mother, though, did not finish high school and has no desire to. MIL was a SAHM who did not really take care of the kids and cheated on every husband she had. She was physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive, and to this day, does not take any responsibility."
"MIL actually calls my wife and asks her to talk to her sibling (who is CURRENTLY living with MIL) whenever there is an issue between the two. When we lived in the same state, we spent so much time with my wife’s family. Every weekend, there was some reason to go to MIL’s house. Now, we live across the country, and when we go back for visits, MIL makes snide comments about us staying with my parents and tries to schedule something in all of our free time. If we’re not with her, she’s constantly texting or calling to see what our plans are, even though we told her."
"If someone cannot set/respect healthy boundaries, even a large physical distance won’t stop them from overstepping in your relationship.
Luckily, my wife and I are on the same page, and she is very good about setting and holding boundaries with her mom. She has no problem putting the phone on DND or hanging up on her mother if she says she has to go and the mother doesn’t end the convo."