Buzz·Posted on Feb 12, 2018Hey Dudes, Here's 12 Ways To Be More Conscientious And Thoughtful Toward The Women In Your Life This Valentine's DayBetter than flowers.by Anais BordagesJournaliste féminisme chez BuzzFeed, FranceFacebookPinterestTwitterMailLink 1. Listen to her. Iryna Alekseienko / Getty Images For many women (as well as nonbinary individuals), it can be quite intimidating to share with male friends or male partners what we experience on a daily basis, be it street harassment, discrimination at work, double standards, and more. So, listen to what she has to say. Be interested in her experience as a woman, and express your interest in understanding that experience to the best of your ability. 2. Ask her what you can do to be a better partner. Getty Images It's great to have an encouraging partner, or even a partner who calls themselves a feminist. But don't stop there. Ask the women in your life how you can be a better ally and help fight the good fight. Maybe it's reading or watching more books/shows/movies by women, or getting educated about the feminist movement. Just remember — it's no one's job to educate you but your own. 3. Pay attention to any underlying gender roles that your relationship might default to. Getty Images If you are having friends over for dinner, who is consistently doing all the cooking/welcoming the guests/washing the dishes/hosting? If you're going out for a meal, who "automatically" pays? Every relationship is different, but it's always worth taking an honest look at the dynamics in yours to understand if there are any unfair stereotypes at play, and then take steps to divide labor and responsibilities up more fairly. 4. Go to the doctor. Getty Images It may sound silly, but men go to the doctor far less often than women, and when they do, it's often because their partner has insisted on it. So take your health seriously without waiting for someone else to remind you — it will be a relief to everyone. 5. Be a generous lover — i.e., don't assume that when it's over for you, it's over for her. Crystal Ro / BuzzFeed The orgasm gap is real, and it's on you as a lover to be patient, inquisitive, and generous about making sure your partner experiences her share of pleasure during sex, too. 6. Be supportive of her choices for contraception and reproductive health. Getty Images Whether it's condoms, an IUD, implants or a pill, it all takes time, energy, and money to figure out. Since contraception is as much a service to you as it is to your partner, you could even offer to help share the costs. 7. Stand up to friends who make sexist jokes. Getty Images This is part of being a better ally — instead of shrugging off offensive comments, tell your friends straight up that you don't find sexism (or homophobia, or racism, or transphobia) acceptable. If they're friends worth having, they'll check themselves and move on. 8. Do your share of the housework. Getty Images That's 50 percent, y'all. Close that chore gap! 9. Believe her when she tells you that something is sexist. Getty Images Yes, you might immediately want to shrug it off when she says a movie, an ad, or a colleague is sexist, even though it seems fine to you. But believe her. 10. Give her a feminist book — and read it together! caroljadams.com, amazon.com We're gonna go ahead and say it: the couple that gets educated together, stays together. 11. Bonus tip: Do all these things every day of the year and not just on Feb. 14!!!! Gunay Aliyeva / Getty Images Mind. Blown. This post was translated from French.