The Best And Worst Ways To Breakup With Someone

(if you have to)

6. WORST: SOCIAL MEDIA

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PROS: There are NO pros to breaking up with someone over social media.

CONS: It's rude and doesn't even really count as a breakup. Social media is what other people see. You're not dealing with a real life relationship, a real life issue, and a real live person. So don't expect to change your relationship status and then your ex to just magically not call you extremely confused and upset. Also some friends might shun you for a while. Just don't do it.

5. NEXT BEST: THROUGH A MUTUAL FRIEND

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PROS: You don't have to be the one to break some bad news but...

CONS: You are not taking responsibility. GROW SOME COJONES! It is not your friend's relationship, therefore it is not your friend's problem! Additionally, have you ever heard of the saying "don't shoot the messenger?" Do you really want to put your friend into that sticky situation? They don't deserve to feel uncomfortable and awkward like that.

4. NEXT BEST: VOICEMAIL

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PROS: Not sure that there are any...

CONS: With voicemails your ex can replay them, which won't help them with the healing process. Also it's impersonal. You have to get it right on the first try so you're put on the spot...otherwise your ex will wake up to 7 voicemails of you attempting to break up with them. Voicemails can also seem like a chore as many times they are used to leave short messages since they are timed. Is that really the vibe you want to give off to someone you used to (and may still in a platonic way) love?

P.S. If you're wondering why there is a picture of Taylor and Joe it's because when she was 18 he broke up with her in 27 seconds over the phone........*tsk tsk tsk*

3. NEXT BEST: PHONE CALL

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PROS: Breaking up over the phone is supposedly the most personal way to breakup with someone if you can't see them in person. It shows that you're making more of an effort than just texting, which usually is a pillow of comfort to your ex who will possibly be spending the next few days in bed.

CONS: What if they can't hear you and you have to repeat something? Just imagine them saying "what are you breaking?" or "I can't hear you, you're breaking up" and you're just like..........."I am breaking up....with you." So bad.

2. NEXT BEST: IN PERSON

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PROS: You get to see them. Because let's be real, it's easier to break up with someone over some sort of screen. But your relationship has been more than over a screen so your breakup should be too. And seeing them might give you a chance to think things over. And if you really do break up, at least you get to see them one last time before the awkward eye-contact begins.

CONS: For one thing, you have to meet with them for the sole purpose of breaking up. Usually you don't get your regular lunch date and then decide you need to break up, it's something you've thought about. So you would probably tell your significant other that and just imagine the anxiety they must be feeling up until they meet with you. The situation is completely out of their control and they're probably trying to think positively while contemplating what to wear.....that sucks! There are so many problems that come with breaking up with someone in person. Do you stay and eat after you've said your bit? If so, who pays? What if they start crying? If you meet in person, there is a good chance they will cry. The situation can either take way too long or be extremely short and seem distasteful. Also, just think about how hard it will be to look them in the eye and end your relationship.

1. BEST: TEXT

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PROS: In my personal opinion, I think the best way to break up with someone is over text. For one thing, your significant other can take the time to respond in a reasonable manner and really think about what it is that they want to say (and usually screenshot and analyze with their bffs). You don't have to see them cry and you don't have to cry in front of them either. In fact it'll make it easier to end the relationship. You will get to a point where you won't think about them unless you see them.

CONS: On the other hand, imagine the dreadful loading/typing emoji thing that you and your ex must deal with after a risky text.

But let's have some final tips...

1. Be considerate; the golden rule definitely applies here. Don't do anything to your ex that you wouldn't want to happen to you.

2. Be honest and direct. Don't sugarcoat things or lie to them in order to try and not hurt their feelings. Breaking up with them is going to probably hurt them no matter how you say it. But sugarcoating and lying are slippery slopes and you might end up not actually breaking up with them or doing what you planned, which isn't good for either of you.

3. But that doesn't mean you need to be unnecessarily harsh.

4. Make it quick and summarize. Your ex does not need to know every single thing they did that bugged you.

5. At the end of the day, do what you feel you need to do but just be kind in doing it. They are a human too and you care about them, so act like it.