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    17 Unbelievably Thoughtless Things Carrie Bradshaw Did On "Sex And The City"

    If there's one thing Carrie Bradshaw's gonna do, it's have the audacity.

    Hiya, I'm Ajani and recently, I ran out of new shows to watch during quarantine. So I decided to finally watch Sex and the City after years of friends suggesting it. And though the show definitely had some...flaws, I generally found the series funny and entertaining!


    However, one of the hardest things about watching the series were all of the god-awful choices Carrie Bradshaw made that I just couldn't fathom:


    1. When Carrie stalked Big and his mom at church because he wouldn't introduce her as his girlfriend.

    Carrie and Miranda spying on Big and his mom at church

    Carrie was simply just doing the most in this episode. Big revealed how one-sided their relationship was when he wouldn't introduce her to his mom. She should've just dumped him then instead of chasing him and ultimately humiliating herself at their church. Not a good look.

    2. When she showed up to Big's place with Big Macs and a beret, announcing she'd move to Paris with him (even though he kept it a secret from her for months).

    Big opening the door to see Carrie in a beret with McDonald's bags

    This was just so embarrassing...I have to laugh. The fact that Big didn't even factor her in his choice to move or care to tell her for so long was messed up. But this scene of her not caring and eager to change her whole life for him was just cringey.

    3. When she got back with Big after she already knew he had huge — like massive — commitment issues.

    Big asking Carrie if they want to play another round of bowling and then them kissing

    If there's one thing Carrie Bradshaw's gonna do, it's throw caution to the wind. Honestly, by the end of the show I was amazed by how she always wanted Big back, even though he always made it seem like they didn't want the same things.

    4. When she cheated on Aidan with Big, who was also MARRIED.

    Aidan telling Carrie "I love you" and Carrie in bed with Big

    This was definitely the worst decision she ever made on the series, considering that she cheated on the best guy she ever dated with the worst guy she ever dated.

    5. When she demanded that Aidan forgive her for cheating on him.

    Carrie repeating "You have to forgive me to Aidan"

    This scene was UNBELIEVABLE. Like, I cannot imagine someone having the gall to order someone else to forgive after that kind of betrayal.

    6. When she made Aidan accept her friendship with Big.

    Carrie telling Aidan she's gonna keep Big in her life

    Again, the gall!

    7. When she invited BIG up to Aidan's country house.

    Carrie, Aidan, and Big having an uncomfortable dinner

    It was at this point, I really started doubting Carrie's critical thinking skills.

    8. When she crashed Natasha's lunch to apologize even though Natasha had made it clear before that she did not want to see Carrie.


    I was so glad Natasha called her out because Carrie's apology was completely self-serving. Carrie's main motivation to apologize was that she felt she had bad karma, not actually to benefit Natasha in any way.

    9. When she sent Aidan to help Miranda, who was naked, injured, and immobile.

    Miranda laid naked on the floor and Aidan picking her up and carrying her out

    I could FEEL Miranda's humiliation here. To be fair, Carrie had a meeting to go to, but at the least she should've told Miranda she was sending her boyfriend instead.

    10. When she showed up to "comfort" an injured Miranda, but used it as an excuse to talk about herself.

    Miranda calling Carrie out for bringing her bagels and then talking about Aidan

    Carrie visiting her injured friend only to talk about herself kind of sums up how she is in all of her friendships during the show.

    11. When she ditched her date at a party because she decided she was "too old" to be dating bisexual men.

    Carrie leaving her date

    This whole episode was unreal. She and this guy both mutually liked each other, so it was incredibly rude of her to just lie, then up and leave in the middle of their date. And her reasoning that bisexuality was a "young person's game" is disappointing and quite narrow-minded for someone who is a literal sex columnist.

    12. When she judged Samantha after accidentally walking in on her having oral sex with a delivery guy in her office.


    Again, Carrie was being surprisingly judgmental for someone who writes about sex.

    13. When she was young and broke, but chose to buy a magazine over food.


    Lololol, what? Also "I felt it just fed me more," is both one of the dumbest and corniest lines on this show.

    14. When she wore her engagement ring around her neck instead of her finger in order to appear single.

    Carrie dressed to go out and wearing her engagement ring as a necklace

    It was kind of clear that Carrie never really wanted to marry Aidan and she should've told him that when he asked instead of saying yes and doing things like this that are, well, kinda hurtful.

    15. When she blew off dinner with Miranda to have dinner with Big.

    Carrie telling Miranda over the phone that she blew off their dinner plans because Big was making her veal

    Carrie ditching her friends for guy is bad enough, but to add insult to injury, she didn't really feel sorry about it either.

    16. When she left her whole life in New York, quit her column, and moved to France with Aleksandr Petrovsky.

    Carried on the phone talking about how living in Paris is hard for her

    There was truly NO reason for Carrie to move to Paris besides staying together with her boyfriend (and they weren't even dating that long). She loved New York and she had a steady job. She didn't know French and she didn't know anyone in Paris besides her boyfriend. It was bound to be a shitshow.

    17. And finally, when she flaked on the party her fans were throwing her so she could go to her boyfriend's art exhibit instead.

    Carrie telling Aleksandr she'll ditch her party and go with him to his exhibit

    Even though she moved to Paris with her boyfriend, Carrie spends most of her time there alone and unhappy. He keeps blowing her off to work on his exhibit or hang out with friends. So when she finally meets some people who love her writing and want to throw her a party, it's infuriating that she bails on them the minute Aleks asks her to accompany him somewhere.

    What were some other awful decisions made by Carrie Bradshaw? Let us know in the comments.