Books·Posted on 29 Sept 201624 Problems That Are Way Too Real For Femme Queer GirlsBeing left out of "the nod" when you see other queer people in public.by Abi McIntoshBuzzFeed StaffLinkFacebookPinterestTwitterMail 1. Dating someone a bit more masculine and getting asked why you just don’t date men. 2. Or dating someone who is also femme and getting constantly asked if you're sisters. Dannielle Owens-Reid @dannielleor Uber driver asked if Bae and I are sisters? I wanna show him this face swap and ask him to point out similarities. 09:16 PM - 22 Mar 2016 Reply Retweet Favorite 3. Having to deal with men asking for threesomes with you and your girlfriend. Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF 4. People never being sure if you're queer, no matter how many times you tell them. Lane Moore @hellolanemoore "Kristen Stewart Palls Around With Her Gal Pal Like A Couple Of Gals Who Are Gal Pals, Also What Is A Lesbian?" 07:39 PM - 20 Apr 2015 Reply Retweet Favorite 5. How clear do you have to be? 6. The ever imaginative phrase "you're too pretty to be a lesbian". ShinyBlackGirl @ShinyBlackGirl1 I was a lesbian, but after he told me that I was too pretty and that he could change my mind, I couldn't help myself! #NoWomanEver 01:18 PM - 18 Jun 2016 Reply Retweet Favorite 7. Or "You know this is a gay bar right?" Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF 8. You know exactly where you are. Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF 9. And then you spend the rest of the night being mistaken for the "straight girl". Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF 10. Dealing with the problems that come with not having stereotypically short hair. Stevie @stevieboebi Does pulling a long hair out of your butt crack and not knowing if it's yours or not count as a feminine lesbian problem? 07:20 PM - 03 Jun 2016 Reply Retweet Favorite 11. Being left out of "the nod" when you see other queer people in public. SH🍔N @brownlashon when you’re gay and you see another gay couple holding hands in public 10:15 PM - 15 Apr 2016 Reply Retweet Favorite 12. Not being able to have long nails. ellie @aimhxo when you're talking to a girl and things start getting serious... 12:39 AM - 29 Oct 2015 Reply Retweet Favorite 13. Having no one to swap shoes with when your feet are sore because you and your girlfriend are both wearing heels. 14. You literally have to come out all the time because otherwise no one knows. 15. Because people often feel like you've lied to them if you don't come out straight away. hal 🌷 @natliadyer straight girls: every girl should have a gay friend! lesbian: hi straight girls: 10:32 PM - 13 Sep 2016 Reply Retweet Favorite 16. You’re probably used to making the first move because other girls don't want to fall into the straight girl trap. 17. You've gotten pretty imaginative at finding new ways to come out at work. 18. And you're generally good dropping subtle hints. phoebe @snoopynfraggle neither of which i am 10:31 PM - 20 Jun 2016 Reply Retweet Favorite 19. Just so that everyone is clear. 20. People automatically assume that you're submissive because you're femme. 21. Your rainbow wardrobe is probably very extensive. View this photo on Instagram 22. Because it is one way you can be recognised. 23. Until they come up with a universally recognisable queer identifier. 24. But secretly you enjoy breaking down other people's stereotypes of what a queer woman should be. Tap to play GIF Tap to play GIF