For you first question- gee, I don’t know. Maybe because being attracted to women means they aren’t attracted to male anatomy or sex with male bits? /eyebrow raise Personally, it’s like how a lot of girls are attracted to girly guys. Like, how some eyeliner and nailpolish and tight clothing can make ‘em swoon. You don’t hear people going “Why aren’t they lesbians if they like someone who looks like a girl?” with that do you?