I wish I could explain how deeply this touched me. I have suffered with vulvadynia, as well, since my c-section 5 years ago. I’m now having to have a hysterectomy to correct my pelvic pain (and trust me, I understand the pain during a papsmear or vaginal ultrasound!) but I’m very upset that there’s still nothing I can do about the pain during intercourse that I haven’t already been doing for years now. I’m so relieved to know other people understand how I feel. I have a fianc�, btw, that I’ve been with for 10 years. We have “outercourse” in order to keep him satisfied and I have clitoral orgasms only so that I do not hurt. Men that are alright with this do exist. I just wanted to let you know so you didn’t give up hope (and hopefully you can find a way like I have to work around the problems). Thank you so much for writing this post.