1. “You’re really hard to read.”
This can feel like a low blow. It’s a very generalized criticism - and good luck getting any specifics out of this person! You were just going about your business, being yourself, and suddenly you’re feeling forced to reevaluate every move you made and identify your wrongdoing.
2. “You’re really quiet!!”
I’m really impressed by your ability to identify characteristics. I learned that in preschool, is this a more recent development in your life?
3. “Are you not having fun?”
I am! I’m just not as worked up about it as you are! Not everyone expresses themselves in the same way, and although this question often comes from a good place, it’s hard to know exactly what to do with it.
5. “You wouldn’t want to do that, there will be a lot of people there.”
Reserved and shy aren’t the same thing. I might not socialize like a rabid monkey, but I still like (and need) to be around other people sometimes!
6. “I’ll bet you’re still a virgin.”
Not that it’s any of your business, but my sexual exploits are not correlated with my ability to muster up enthusiasm for this conversation.
7. *Someone asks you a question, and someone else answers for you*
Um, I am not a child. Thanks.
8. Anything in which you’re called “sweetie” or “honey”
Again, I am an adult - please treat me with the same respect that I am currently treating you with by refraining from telling you where to put it.
9. “You wouldn’t be good at ______. You’re too quiet.”
While I agree there are some careers I personally wouldn’t be comfortable in (talk show host, for example), it’s not really your place to assert your opinion about my abilities.