The more we ignore our male children, the more we program them to fulfill our stereotypes of masculinity, the more we stunt their emotional growth by sending signals from every direction that the only truly acceptable emotions for a man to display are extreme happiness (reserved for sex or sports) or extreme anger, the more monsters we create.
But not to take responsibility away from the men who choose to abuse others; they are filthy, despicable, cowardly bullies who deserve to lose the trust of all decent human beings, even after they have been legally punished for stealing so much from their victims.