@reneeb15 I’m going to assume you don’t have too many black friends. There is a distinct difference between the using the word n—-er in the derogatory context of a joke, and the word n—-a in the context of street language. I’m white and from New York, and most of my friends are black or latino. They use the word n—-a all the time, calling everyone, including me, a n—-a. They often encourage me to use it in that context, often challenging what they see as my fear of the word. Personally I don’t feel comfortable throwing that word around because of its historical context, there are far too many people who still see black and white, and would surely misunderstand. In case you live on another planet, there’s a little show called the Boondocks, and they have an episode where they discuss this paradox that you’ve presented. I hope you understand it’s satire, so hopefully it won’t hurt your feelings: http://youtu.be/9NY1y1aggUA Ultimately, it’s the context in which the word is used that defines the intentions of the speaker. There’s a difference between saying n—-er in a derogatory manner (such as racial joke), and using it as street slang, as can be heard anywhere in NYC. Peace.