Your partner's home can say a lot about them. Maybe they're a clean minimalist, maybe they like to keep things super cozy, or perhaps they're simply a walking red flag. Well, recently, I asked the BuzzFeed Community to share the major WTF moment they had when seeing their significant other's home for the first time that made them want to leave immediately. Here are the shocking moments they shared.
1. "I visited my now-husband's family with him on Christmas after we just started dating. They knew we were coming as his mom picked us up. His dad was sitting in front of the TV in underwear. He gave me a hug when greeting me. Then he went back to watching darts in his very little grayish boxers. He didn't talk to me until saying goodbye. Weird stuff."
2. "I went to his place, which he shared with his cousin who worked at a hospital. We were just talking, and I happened to notice a small jar with liquid and a severed thumb in it just sitting on the display case with other knick knacks. I couldn't get out of there fast enough."
3. "I walked in with plans to spend the night, and it was honestly the most depressing thing I've seen. Roommate's dirty kid running around in nothing but a dirty diaper with smelly dogs that pee out of excitement. The couch was ripped up, stuffing coming out. He explained that his roommate had just gotten divorced. The roommate came in and took care of the baby. I went downstairs to his half of the house, and it was clean, so I stayed the night but didn't sleep with him. I was questioning dating someone who didn't see anything wrong with the upstairs."
"The next morning, he went to work, and I went into his private bathroom to shower. We live in an arid climate, and this standup shower was fluorescent green from top to bottom. I mean it when I say covered. I've never seen anything like it.
There was a small round area on the bottom where the water hit the ground. I sponge-bathed instead, and the towel smelled like mildew, so I rolled on his bed to dry off. I left and told him exactly why."
—Anonymous
4. "My boyfriend, whom I met while on vacation in another country (but we both happened to live in the same area), was going through the process of divorce. His ex went off the rails partying in his absence, so he got possession of his big, beautiful house. I was excited to see it and be there, but when he got the keys and entered for the first time in months, I was greeted with several 'self-portrait' type paintings of his ex-wife's boobs. She had also been painted the garage with imprints of her boobs and ass."
5. "When my now husband and I were dating in college, he lived in a house with a few other guys. He had an unfinished basement room with literal nails sticking out of the concrete walls. The only piece of furniture was a bare mattress on the ground, and all of his clothes were in a massive pile next to an unopened Ikea dresser kit. There were a lot of big, venomous spiders that lived in the area around our college, so there was a fairy ring of glue traps around the mattress to catch the spiders, and quite a few massive ones were on display this way. It was like walking into a horror movie!"
"Thankfully, he's learned about the joys of furniture, bedding, and finished walls/fun decor. Now, our house is fully furnished and covered in fun knickknacks, paintings, and memorabilia. Also, thankfully, we no longer live in a place with massive venomous spiders."
6. "I used to date someone who lived in New York City. I noticed that he had a habit of reusing toilet paper. One night, I went to his place and used the bathroom. But, to my surprise, there wasn't any toilet paper. When I called out to him, he suggested I use the toilet paper from the garbage can. However, it was used toilet paper, and considering he's a guy, he's only wiping one thing. I was speechless and didn't know how to react. We are no longer together."
7. "I went on a few dates with a former NFL player. On the third date, we met at his place, and I discovered it was a wall-to-wall shrine dedicated to his glory days, which ended maybe five to six years before. Framed jerseys, framed clippings, photo albums — it was way over the top. I get that it was a huge accomplishment and a huge part of his life, but I just got the sense (based on things he said as well) that he felt like his best days were behind him, and that's not something I want in a partner."
8. "He had mentioned that he was interested in true crime stuff. I didn't find it strange, given that's an interest for a lot of people, but when I went to his apartment, he had letters from MULTIPLE serial killers that he had been writing back and forth with. Some dated back years. That goes far beyond 'interest,' as far as I'm concerned. We dated a couple more months after that, and it never came up again."
9. "The large number of tiny teddy bears in the home of a 64-year-old single man. Plus photos of the ex for extra discomfort."
10. "I was invited over for dinner. The apartment was visibly dirty. Not messy, dirty! I was in the bathroom, and being nosy, I peered behind the closed shower curtain. There were dirty dishes stacked in the tub! I also asked later if I could get a drink. I went to the fridge, where he said there were sodas, and I saw the milk jug had a February expiration date. It was June at the time. I got the hell out of there shortly after."
11. "I started dating this guy in my early 20s, and he had recently moved back to our town and was staying with his family. He took me to their house for the first time, and the whole family was gathered in a dark living room watching TV. By whole family, I mean about six people ranging from small children to mid-50s. I looked at the TV to see what they were watching, and it was a porn film. Hardcore porn."
—Anonymous, 58, Indiana