Charley Vireo
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    • Charley Vireo

      Kyle:Irespect that you’ve taken the time out to respond to most of these comments, butIthink you’re being disingenuous here. Just because you have worked with organizations that serve people of color does not negate the privileged space that you occupy in life and in lovemaking. While there are health clinics and LBGTQ-focused health organization in low-income and PoC communities, to say to that everyone has equal access to healthcare, information, and HIV/AIDS treatment/preventative care is to deny reality.

      Additionally, you’re not being called names because you are “safer”, and not all these comments are “designed to spread negativity” (as you say below). There are many legitimate criticisms of your article which, as is clear from many of the intelligent responses here, does not get across the message you intended. Please listen and stop being so defensive.

      Finally: whileIunderstand your stance on “unsafe” versus “safe” sex (no sex is truly “safe”, after all),Itake great issue with your use and promulgation of the term “bareback.” “Bareback” isaporn-term that fetishes condomless sex and is used to sell unprotected sex asahot, forbidden fruit. Part of fighting the spread of STDs is normalizing the use of condoms in casual encounters (this has been seen in successful HIV/AID prevention programs, such as the many in Cuba). Language cuts both ways—if using the term “unsafe sex” is harmful because it stifles dialogue, using the term “barebacking” is equally as harmful because it romanticizes (and pornifies) behavior that can lead to life-threatening consequences.

    • Charley Vireo

      Kyle: I respect that you’ve taken the time out to respond to most of these comments, but I think you’re being disingenuous here. Just because you have worked with organizations that serve people of color does not negate the privileged space that you occupy in life and in lovemaking. While there are health clinics and LBGTQ-focused health organization in low-income and PoC communities, to say to that everyone has equal access to healthcare, information, and HIV/AIDS treatment/preventative care is to deny reality.  Additionally, you’re not being called names because you are “safer”, and not all these comments are “designed to spread negativity” (as you say below). There are many legitimate criticisms of your article which, as is clear from many of the intelligent responses here, does not get across the message you intended. Please listen and stop being so defensive. Finally: while I understand your stance on “unsafe” versus “safe” sex (no sex is truly “safe”, after all), I take great issue with your use and promulgation of the term “bareback.” “Bareback” is a porn-term that fetishes condomless sex and is used to sell unprotected sex as a hot, forbidden fruit. Part of fighting the spread of HIV/AIDS is normalizing the use of condoms in casual encounters (this has been seen in successful HIV/AID prevention programs, such as the many in Cuba). Language cuts both ways—if using the term “unsafe sex” is harmful because it stifles dialogue, using the term “barebacking” is equally as harmful because it romanticizes (and pornifies) behavior that can lead to life-threatening consequences.