My least favorite argument that this video provides is that when you go through tragedy, you are mournful and somber the entire time. Sometimes your body responds to shock differently. The day my mother died, I was taken to my uncle’s house while hospice and the funeral home came to clean out her bedroom, and my best friend and I jumped into their freezing swimming pool and laughed about it. I was so numbed by the loss of my mother that I couldn’t bring myself to cry. I had to laugh. A few days later, I was giving her eulogy and I didn’t cry. It wasn’t until a few weeks later that I was finally able to really sit down and grieve. Sometimes it takes a while for people, and for some guy to pop up with “Because they’re not crying, they’re not really sad, so this is fake” is really really offensive to me.