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28 Gifts For Others That Are Secretly Gifts For Yourself

These are what I call win-win gifts. 😏

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1. A cookbook for your friends who can't even boil water properly. For the sake of their kitchen and your taste buds, GET THIS BOOK.

Promising review: "I have had this cookbook for a few years now and wanted to share it with a friend and my daughter. The recipes are simple and almost always delicious. As the title says, 'You Can't Mess Up.' It is good for the most seasoned cook all the way down to the beginner." —Kris B.Get it from Amazon for $14.08, Barnes & Noble for $15.29, or a local bookseller through IndieBound here.
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Promising review: "I have had this cookbook for a few years now and wanted to share it with a friend and my daughter. The recipes are simple and almost always delicious. As the title says, 'You Can't Mess Up.' It is good for the most seasoned cook all the way down to the beginner." —Kris B.

Get it from Amazon for $14.08, Barnes & Noble for $15.29, or a local bookseller through IndieBound here.

2. A snuggly fleece throw to give to your roommate/S.O. who is always colder than you. Now they can be warm, and you can keep the AC on.

Promising review: "This blanket was honestly the best gift I've received. I had been eyeing it for some time prior to receiving it for Christmas. Almost five months and a few washes later, it is still just as soft as when I first got it. The price tag is so worth it!" —lyndseyvangeeGet it from Urban Outfitters for $49 (available in seven colors).
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Promising review: "This blanket was honestly the best gift I've received. I had been eyeing it for some time prior to receiving it for Christmas. Almost five months and a few washes later, it is still just as soft as when I first got it. The price tag is so worth it!" —lyndseyvangee

Get it from Urban Outfitters for $49 (available in seven colors).

3. An Uber gift card so they'll stop asking you for rides to the airport.

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Sorry for the shade.

Get it from Amazon for $25+ or Walmart for $25, $50, or $100.

4. A party game for finding out everything you'd want to know about your friends. Be prepared to discover how weird everyone is.

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Promising review: "This game is awesome! Played with a couple of friends, and they all said the same. Good way to learn disturbing things about your friends or even just mess with them. A Fibbage-like game, but with interview questions." —Tyler Kinoshita

Get it from Amazon for $19.

5. A set of long-distance touch lamps that'll light up when you place your hand on it. Give one to a loved one who lives far away — they'll always know when you're thinking of them and vice versa.

Promising review: "My best friend and I love this lamp! I live in Washington state and she lives in North Carolina, so we never get to see each other. We have been friends for over 20 years and share the same birthday, so this gift was perfect for us. Now we can communicate daily!" —Heidi-pooGet them from Uncommon Goods for $170.
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Promising review: "My best friend and I love this lamp! I live in Washington state and she lives in North Carolina, so we never get to see each other. We have been friends for over 20 years and share the same birthday, so this gift was perfect for us. Now we can communicate daily!" —Heidi-poo

Get them from Uncommon Goods for $170.

6. A cold brew maker so there's always delicious coffee to drink when you go over to their place. And TBH, it'll also make your friend a lot easier to hang out with in the morning, because they're cranky without coffee.

Promising review: "Super easy to use and clean, and I'm very impressed with the quality of coffee it makes. It's a cute little pitcher that doesn't take up too much space in the fridge. It says you could also brew tea in it if that's your jazz. I also appreciate that it comes with a one year warranty!" —Amazon CustomerGet it from Amazon for $35.99.
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Promising review: "Super easy to use and clean, and I'm very impressed with the quality of coffee it makes. It's a cute little pitcher that doesn't take up too much space in the fridge. It says you could also brew tea in it if that's your jazz. I also appreciate that it comes with a one year warranty!" —Amazon Customer

Get it from Amazon for $35.99.

7. An clip-on LED ring light that'll take incredible photos (read: selfies) that the two of you can share.

It's rechargeable via a USB cord and there are three brightness settings.Promising review: "Love this. Stays charged for a very long time, and the different settings really help you get the perfect picture." —DeeGet it from Amazon for $12.99.
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It's rechargeable via a USB cord and there are three brightness settings.

Promising review: "Love this. Stays charged for a very long time, and the different settings really help you get the perfect picture." —Dee

Get it from Amazon for $12.99.

8. A homemade gin kit for the person who's the gin to your tonic. You can expect a call from them saying, "Hey, do you want to come over and try the gin I made?" Um, yes please.

Promising review: "I've bought this kit in the past, and I was so satisfied with the results that I bought two this year. The gin came out delicious, and my friends and I enjoyed it very much. I love this gin kit, and I definitely will buy it again. It's so awesome to make your own gin. I even bought the refill packs that offer different flavors, too. Can't wait to see how good those come out. If you like gin, then I would definitely recommend the Homemade Gin Kit." —ReubGet it from Amazon for $38 or Food52 for $50+.
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Promising review: "I've bought this kit in the past, and I was so satisfied with the results that I bought two this year. The gin came out delicious, and my friends and I enjoyed it very much. I love this gin kit, and I definitely will buy it again. It's so awesome to make your own gin. I even bought the refill packs that offer different flavors, too. Can't wait to see how good those come out. If you like gin, then I would definitely recommend the Homemade Gin Kit." —Reub

Get it from Amazon for $38 or Food52 for $50+.

9. An angry cat watch to pester your perpetually late friend for you. This way maybe you guys can actually catch the beginning of a movie.

Get it from mixed world on Zazzle for $45.95+.
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Get it from mixed world on Zazzle for $45.95+.

10. A pair of earbuds, because while you love your roomies, you don't want to listen to their music on full-blast 24/7.

Promising review: "Compared to MANY other earbuds that I've had that cost $75, $100, $150, these sound as good as any of them. I'm astounded! I use these for running, and I've attached them to my sunglasses along with my iPod Shuffle. I figured for $8, I could afford to sweat up a few of these and replace them whenever I needed to. I'VE RUN 1,500 MILES WITH THESE in the last year and a half! I've gone through four pairs of New Balance shoes, two iPod Shuffles, three pairs of sunglasses, and am on the SAME set of earbuds! And, THEY STILL SOUND GREAT!" —Gene GoodellGet them from Amazon for $8.99+ (available in nine colors), Jet for $8.94.
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Promising review: "Compared to MANY other earbuds that I've had that cost $75, $100, $150, these sound as good as any of them. I'm astounded! I use these for running, and I've attached them to my sunglasses along with my iPod Shuffle. I figured for $8, I could afford to sweat up a few of these and replace them whenever I needed to. I'VE RUN 1,500 MILES WITH THESE in the last year and a half! I've gone through four pairs of New Balance shoes, two iPod Shuffles, three pairs of sunglasses, and am on the SAME set of earbuds! And, THEY STILL SOUND GREAT!" —Gene Goodell

Get them from Amazon for $8.99+ (available in nine colors), Jet for $8.94.

11. An iTunes or Google Play gift card so they can download fun party games to play such as Heads Up!

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You and everyone else all get to join in on the fun!

Get them from Amazon for $25+ or $50 or from Walmart for $15+ or $10+.

12. A mini cast iron skillet for making a sweet dessert for two. (Hint: One of them is you.)

This skillet measures 3.5 inches in diameter.Promising review: "Love these. I use them for individual cast iron skillet cookies. They make a great presentation, and the best thing is I can cheat and use the refrigerated cookies so its a quick on-hand dessert. With a scoop of ice cream, you are a star." —CabinlifeGet it from Amazon for $7.57.
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This skillet measures 3.5 inches in diameter.

Promising review: "Love these. I use them for individual cast iron skillet cookies. They make a great presentation, and the best thing is I can cheat and use the refrigerated cookies so its a quick on-hand dessert. With a scoop of ice cream, you are a star." —Cabinlife

Get it from Amazon for $7.57.

13. A book filled with cocktail recipes to get them through every mundane task. It'll inspire them to whip up more tasty drinks, and there'll definitely be some leftover...for you.

Too tired to mow the lawn? Do it anyway and then reward yourself with a nice and refreshing "Grass Chopper." Get it from Amazon or Knock Knock for $14.
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Too tired to mow the lawn? Do it anyway and then reward yourself with a nice and refreshing "Grass Chopper."

Get it from Amazon or Knock Knock for $14.

14. A small box of table topics that'll ensure the conversation never runs dry at a dinner party, so you can get past small talk and actually get to know people.

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Promising review: "I have given various TableTopics sets as gifts. My nieces love their set and use it as a way for their family and friends to get to know each other. Great for introducing friends at cocktail or dinner parties. Some sets are especially good at avoiding after-school dinner conversations filled with 'nothing' and 'I don't know.'" —Cat

Get it from Amazon or Uncommon Goods for $25.

15. A poop emoji portable charger so cute they'll carry it in their bag all the time, which means 1) they won't ever miss your texts due to a dead phone, and 2) you'll be able to borrow it when you're out of juice.

Get it from Fab for $38.95 or a similar one from Amazon for $14.99.
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Get it from Fab for $38.95 or a similar one from Amazon for $14.99.

16. A set of ponytail holders for a friend who's always borrowing yours and then losing them!

These ponytail holders are metal-free, nondamaging, and suitable for all hair types!Promising review: "Finding a ponytail holder that looks good and stays put without damaging your hair is not easy! But these are the best! They are attractive, stay in place, and don't pull or tug at your hair! So glad I discovered these gems!" —MissyCaneGet a 15-pack from Amazon or Nordstrom for $18 (available in 48 colors).
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These ponytail holders are metal-free, nondamaging, and suitable for all hair types!

Promising review: "Finding a ponytail holder that looks good and stays put without damaging your hair is not easy! But these are the best! They are attractive, stay in place, and don't pull or tug at your hair! So glad I discovered these gems!" —MissyCane

Get a 15-pack from Amazon or Nordstrom for $18 (available in 48 colors).

17. A pair of lightsaber chopsticks any Star Wars fan would appreciate. But the real reason for getting these is so you guys can have a premeal chopstick duel to determine who does the dishes afterward.

Promising review: "I bought these as a present for my dad. He loves them a lot, and I love them, too! They are super fun to eat with and are affordable!" —Annika MosserGet a two-pack from Amazon for $13.49.
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Promising review: "I bought these as a present for my dad. He loves them a lot, and I love them, too! They are super fun to eat with and are affordable!" —Annika Mosser

Get a two-pack from Amazon for $13.49.

18. An odor-eliminating candle to gift to a friend who has extremely cute but smelly pets. Both of your noses will be relieved the next time you go over to their place for a catch-up session.

Promising review: "We have a puppy who is not 100% house-trained yet, and we don't want our guests to know that we clean up pee puddles at least twice a day. This candle did the trick! We got the vanilla scent, and it's pleasant without being overpowering, and it filled our whole apartment with a yummy fragrance. It also has a good burn time. Our friends that came over said it smelled like a pound cake was in the oven." —CaylinGet it from Amazon for $21.95 (available in 13 scents).
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Promising review: "We have a puppy who is not 100% house-trained yet, and we don't want our guests to know that we clean up pee puddles at least twice a day. This candle did the trick! We got the vanilla scent, and it's pleasant without being overpowering, and it filled our whole apartment with a yummy fragrance. It also has a good burn time. Our friends that came over said it smelled like a pound cake was in the oven." —Caylin

Get it from Amazon for $21.95 (available in 13 scents).

19. A huge box of snacks the recipient can't possibly finish by themselves...which is where you come in. 😉

Promising review: "Sent this box to my niece and nephew for college snacks. They love it and keep begging me to send another! The box arrived fast, and the snacks were fresh. Will be ordering again." —DDH630Get a 40-pack from Amazon for $23.70.
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Promising review: "Sent this box to my niece and nephew for college snacks. They love it and keep begging me to send another! The box arrived fast, and the snacks were fresh. Will be ordering again." —DDH630

Get a 40-pack from Amazon for $23.70.

20. A set of colorful pens with compliments on them perfect for a coworker. It'll put them in a good mood, and they'll stop taking pens off your desk!

Get a six-pack from Amazon for $10.26 or Asos for $17.50.
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Get a six-pack from Amazon for $10.26 or Asos for $17.50.

21. A Nifty Journal from BuzzFeed that'll help literally anyone get their shit together. It'll give them advice/life hacks/organizational tips so you won't have to!

This journal is a planner, activity book, and life-hack reference book all in one!Get it from BuzzFeed's Nifty shop for $22.95.PSST! BuzzFeed makes money if you buy this.
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This journal is a planner, activity book, and life-hack reference book all in one!

Get it from BuzzFeed's Nifty shop for $22.95.

PSST! BuzzFeed makes money if you buy this.

22. A removable London phone booth wall decal that's actually a dry-erase board, so they can jot down things to remember before heading out the door (like, maybe returning that sweater that they've "borrowed" for a year now).

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Also, you can leave them little messages on when to meet up next!

Promising review: "We've got this on our basement door, which is right next to the fridge in our kitchen. Every time we use the last of something, or it's nearly gone, we just grab the dry erase marker, and write it down. Every time I head to the store, I just jot down what we need, and I'm off! We leave notes for each other and write the dates of upcoming events on here. It's perfect and so useful!" —Jodi Perko

Get it from Amazon for $17.99 or The Grommet for $20.95.

23. A super cute sleeping mask for your roomie or S.O. who always goes to bed early and complains about you leaving the light on. (Look, I can't be creative unless it's 3 a.m., ok?)

Get it from 805Masks on Etsy for $12.
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Get it from 805Masks on Etsy for $12.

24. A DIY plushie kit the two of you can enjoy together because it's a lot more fun to sew with a friend.

Promising review: "Confession — I bought this for myself. It's definitely written easily enough for kids to follow along, BUT it's a blast for me. In less than 30 minutes, I made a cute sprinkled donut and a toaster pastry and had fun. This kit is great for kids' activities, and it's very easy with patterns already cut for you and the small pieces ready for assembly. I definitely recommend​ this to anyone looking for some cuteness and fun." —Nicole PackardGet it from Amazon, Jet, or Walmart for $18.66.
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Promising review: "Confession — I bought this for myself. It's definitely written easily enough for kids to follow along, BUT it's a blast for me. In less than 30 minutes, I made a cute sprinkled donut and a toaster pastry and had fun. This kit is great for kids' activities, and it's very easy with patterns already cut for you and the small pieces ready for assembly. I definitely recommend​ this to anyone looking for some cuteness and fun." —Nicole Packard

Get it from Amazon, Jet, or Walmart for $18.66.

25. A bacon curing kit (pork belly not included, unfortunately) even a novice cook can work with. And who will they share the finished product with? Their generous friend who bought them the kit, obviously.

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Promising review: "I received the bacon kit as a Christmas gift — I thought it might just be a fun novelty and project, but the bacon turned out to be AMAZING. Bought some organic pork belly, and the blend of the seasonings was awesome. I've vowed to make this a 'go-to' on my gift list for any foodie friends who would enjoy both the process of making the bacon and the fantastic end result. BTW, it also froze beautifully — turns out a five-pound pork belly makes a LOT of bacon!" —Amazon Customer

Get it from Amazon for $27.95.

26. A technology guidebook for your parents and grandparents, so they can familiarize themselves with "all the stuff young kids use these days." Frankly, it's better at explaining stuff and being patient than you are.

It covers both Macs and PCs, in case you're wondering.Promising review: "Was a gift — my mom loved it and finally can use her 'interwebz' without calling me with questions!" —KatieGet it from Amazon for $14.39, Barnes & Noble for $16.16, or Indiebound for $17.95.
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It covers both Macs and PCs, in case you're wondering.

Promising review: "Was a gift — my mom loved it and finally can use her 'interwebz' without calling me with questions!" —Katie

Get it from Amazon for $14.39, Barnes & Noble for $16.16, or Indiebound for $17.95.

27. An airtight container that'll keep guacamole fresh for a long time, so you friend/roomie/SO will be more inclined to make more, which means there'll always be guac in the fridge for you to eat.

Promising review: "Because of this little gadget, I am enjoying making guacamole again. I hated the browning that always occurred, and I would end up throwing it away. Too expensive to waste. This thing really works! My batches are still appealing in color and taste four days later. It's always gone by then, so I can't vouch for any longer. I think it holds enough for a group of friends and an afternoon of football. I'm very glad I bought it." —Joyce M.Get it from Amazon for $16.95 or The Grommet for $19.95.
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Promising review: "Because of this little gadget, I am enjoying making guacamole again. I hated the browning that always occurred, and I would end up throwing it away. Too expensive to waste. This thing really works! My batches are still appealing in color and taste four days later. It's always gone by then, so I can't vouch for any longer. I think it holds enough for a group of friends and an afternoon of football. I'm very glad I bought it." —Joyce M.

Get it from Amazon for $16.95 or The Grommet for $19.95.

28. A journal based on the best-selling book Wonder to give to any kid in your life. It'll teach them about kindness and how to appreciate YOU more. (But mostly the kindness part.)

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Promising review: "This journal book is such a great find! I got it for my daughter's ninth birthday, and she loves it and has written in it every day since she received it. Such positive messages for them to really act on and reflect through writing. Highly recommend!" —Miriam K.

Get it from Amazon for $10.19.

Kick back, relax, and wait to reap the benefits from your gifts.

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