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    18 Things That Just May Help You Stop Hating Other People So Much

    You just may be nicer than you think.

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    1. Encounter positive thoughts each day with a pack of affirmation cards you can sit on your nightstand for an encouraging wakeup call each morning.

    Thinking positively about yourself will eventually change the way you react with others — even when dealing with those who may not be your favorite people.

    Promising Review: “This purchase was for a birthday of a friend. I have really enjoyed this deck of inspirational cards and have purchased many decks as presents. They are full of delightful illustrations, wisdom, encouragement, and humor!” —B.L. River

    Get the 50-pack from Amazon for $12.

    2. Give those negative thoughts the boot by documenting all the amazing happenings you experience daily in a gorgeous gratitude journal.

    The journal features several encouraging quotes and space for you to document all your highs from each day.

    Promising Review: “Keeping a gratitude journal has changed my life in so many positive ways. I used to just use a little lined notebook. But when I saw this pretty gratitude journal, I had to have it. I enjoy writing in it every day. And now I have a beautiful keepsake of all the things — big and small — that I am thankful for each day!” —Royal

    Get it from Amazon for $8.70+ (available on Kindle and Paperback).

    3. Send someone a thank you card for a kind act they’ve done — or just because — to recognize and celebrate the goodness of others.

    Promising Review: “These are the cutest thank you cards I have ever owned! I bought them just to keep around the house for random times I need to send someone a thank you note There is a card for every type of occasion. I'm ordering more to used for my baby shower.” —Mitchell D.

    Get a 36-pack of cards from Amazon for $15.99.

    4. Avoid the emotional pitfalls of dealing with haters by thumbing through Nasty People — the only companion you need to help you overcome the betrayal or disrespect of a rude person.

    Promising Review: “Despite its relative brevity, this book is packed with very illuminating information about the insidious and destructive tactics used by all of us when in a less-than-healthy place emotionally. I appreciated the author's acknowledgement that there isn't a ‘one-size-fits-all approach’ to dealing with nasty people. Nevertheless, he points you in the right direction and arms you with the tools you need to cope!” —PS

    Get it from Amazon for $6.99 (available on Kindle and Paperback.).

    5. Overload on cuteness with a copy of The Babies and Doggies Book to remind yourself that annoying adults all start off as sweet little ones.

    Promising Review: “I purchased this book as a baby shower gift! It's a great first read for a little one. And the pictures are very bright and adorable. It’s absolutely adorable, and the pictures alone are worth the purchase.” —Smoore

    Get it from Amazon for $4.74.

    6. Pick up a simple weekly planner and schedule a few hours to spend quality time with a family member, friend, or acquaintance you’d like to get to know better.

    Promising Review: “This is the third planner I've tried this year, and I've finally found one that works! I have room to write everything I need in it. It’s small enough to carry with me.” —MrsSSG

    Get it from Amazon for $7.95.

    7. Learn some key tips to working with difficult individuals you encounter by flipping through Working Successfully with Screwed-Up People.

    Promising Review: “This a great book to have. I wish I'd owned it years ago when I had to work with some people who had issues. Fortunately, the people I work with now are very agreeable and professional!” —Amazon Customer

    Get it from Amazon for $1.99+ (available on Kindle and Paperback).

    8. Organize a cooking night — with some help from a Martha & Marley Spoon meal kit — so you can catch up with a friend or family member you haven’t seen in awhile.

    The meal will serve two people.

    Promising Review: “This was a huge hit for me. I wasn't sure if I'd like it because I've tried other services that send you prepared things, and they always take longer than they say. This took exactly 35 minutes for me to make, and it was super tasty. I'm really impressed and excited to try the other ones!” —J

    Get the Moroccan Spiced Chicken with Vegetables kit from Amazon for $24.

    9. Gain some new understanding of yourself and how you can use that truth to connect with others by reading The Gifts of Imperfection.

    Promising Review: “I walked through life never feeling as if I mattered. I tried to get people to make me feel that I mattered. But this book helped me to realize that I am okay. It taught me that it is okay to just be me. I also learned that I had to be honest with myself about who I am. This is a very beautiful book!” —Yvonne Eason

    Get it from Amazon for $8.48+ (available on Kindle and Paperback).

    10. Center your thoughts on staying positive while increasing your strength and flexibility by subscribing to Yoga Download — an online service that'll allow you to practice yoga basically anywhere.

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    Yoga Download features hundreds of yoga classes taught by instructors across the globe. And your subscription also includes free yoga videos you can watch when you are offline.

    You can subscribe to Yoga Download for $12+ per month.

    11. Avoid negative gossip as often as you can, seeing that messy conversations can affect the way you view and interact with those around you.

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    It can be tough to avoid the latest drama or juicy gossip. But make a conscious effort to stay clear of any chatter that is demeaning or disrespectful to others.

    Lucky for you, that key piece of life advice is FREE.

    12. Launch a blog on Tumblr or WordPress — with a little guidance from the Blogger's Quick Guide set. You can use your blog to share your thoughts or creative inspirations and and engage with people who have similar interests.

    Promising Review: “I have been writing professionally online since 1998. I have read many books and e-books on the topics of writing and blogging. I wasn't sure how much I would learn about rituals and routines from this set. But I was thoroughly impressed. The books have some great tips and advice that are practical yet useful. Both new and seasoned bloggers can benefit from these books.” —Lisa Mason

    Get the three-book set from Amazon for $4.99.

    13. Find some time to volunteer with a group of co-workers, friends, or with an organization focused on a cause you are passionate about.

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    You can use your time volunteering to make a difference and build new relationships with people who also want to help others.

    Check out Big Brothers Big Sisters, United Way, and Habitat for Humanity to kick off your search for volunteer opportunities in your area.

    14. Learn the signs of a problematic friendship before a dramatic fallout occurs with The Little Book About Toxic Friendships — because no one has time for fake friends.

    Promising Review: "This book was absolutely amazing. It made me reevaluate people around me. It also helped me realize who is and who isn't a toxic friend. You never realize certain things until you actually pay attention to the little things people say and do. Everyone should read this book!” —Kindle Customer

    Get it from Amazon for $3.99+ (available on Kindle and Paperback).

    15. Invite someone you haven’t hung out with in awhile to a musical, concert, or other entertainment event. You two can bond at the show, as well as discuss your favorite elements of the performance afterward.

    Check out Ticketmaster for some awesome musicals, festivals, shows, and concerts.

    16. Subscribe to O Magazine for a monthly dose of helpful life tips and empowering stories that’ll inspire you to live your best life every day.

    Promising Review: “This magazine provides an excellent collection of content that informs and inspires. Reading O, The Oprah Magazine is a positive way to spend an afternoon. I often return to the magazine throughout the month, and I keep issues or articles that really speak to me. I recommend O Magazine to women who want an uplifting and empowering message in their lives.” —Lizzy EH

    Get a one-year subscription of 12 issues from Amazon for $5.

    17. Determine how your individual sensitivities may shape your personal relationships with The Highly Sensitive Person.

    Promising Review: “This book fundamentally changed my perspective on life and helped me realize who I am. I recommend this book to anyone, even if they do not wish to attach a label to themselves.” —Chris P

    Get it from Amazon for $4.70+ (available on Kindle, Hardcover, and Paperback).

    18. And if all else fails, grab a copy of The Solo Travelers Handbook and book a dream getaway you can enjoy by your own damn self.

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    A solo trip will be a great way to reflect on your life and celebrate at least trying to get along with others.

    Promising Review: “This is a great read for anyone thinking about traveling by themselves. I wasn't sure what to expect traveling alone. So I bought this book, and it perfectly conveyed to me the reality of traveling solo. I now have a much better understanding of the subject. And I can honestly say that this book really helped me!” —Steven Walker

    Get it from Amazon for $8.99+ (available on Kindle and Paperback). And check out for numerous travel deals that'll fit any budget.

    Don't wait any longer. It's time to step out of your comfort zone.


    The reviews for this post have been edited for length and clarity.

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