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    17 Really Good Pieces Of Advice For First-Time Mums From Other Parents

    Every baby is different.

    We asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what advice they had for first-time mums. Here are some of their responses.

    1. You can't predict your labour.

    2. All that matters is the baby is being fed.

    3. Be prepared to do a load of baby laundry every day.

    4. Sleep or rest when the baby sleeps.

    5. Check your baby's temperature.

    6. Trust your instincts.

    7. Take pictures.

    8. You're going to have some bad days, and it's OK!

    9. Not every person gets that rush of love when they give birth.

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    If you don't feel bonded to your baby, don't worry. My son is almost 12 months old and I'm only now feeling a really strong bond between us. It can take even longer than that. You're still getting to know this little human, and not every person gets that rush of love when they give birth.

    – Eve Acton, Facebook

    10. Don't do the "who is more tired" game with your partner.

    The Late Show With Stephen Colber / Via CBS

    You will hate your partner. You will look at them sleeping peacefully whilst you pace back and forth trying to get baby to settle and want to stab them in the face. I am talking proper seething hatred. This is the lack of sleep talking – try to keep it in perspective and not dropkick them when they come in from work moaning about how tired they are. Do not do the "who is more tired" game, no one wins.


    11. Take care of yourself first.

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    Adopt airplane safety rule: Put your oxygen mask on before you help others. Your main job as a parent is to make sure your baby is safe. Your baby is not safe while in care of an exhausted, starved, and depressed person, so TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST. Make sure you eat, not only feed, that you take shower, not only give baths. And that you sleep, not just rock to sleep. Then you'll be fine, all of you.

    – Agnieszka Gocalińska, Facebook

    12. Be careful when changing baby boys.

    Simpsons / Via Fox

    If it’s a boy, be sure to point the little willy down when changing him. Otherwise everything will be covered in pee. His clothes, your clothes, his bed, crib, bassinet, bouncer, your hair and even face. That first week was rough.

    Erin Tennyson

    13. It doesn’t last forever.

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    Everything is temporary. People tell you how quickly time goes when they’re babies and that you’ll miss the baby stage – that’s true. This also goes for when you’re struggling with colic, teething, sleepless nights etc. It doesn’t last forever, so deal the best way you can in that moment and remember, it’s temporary.


    14. Every baby is different.

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    Remember that every baby is different. Just because something worked for one mum and her baby doesn’t mean it’ll work for you and yours. Everything is trial and error, so if you have to try different things before something works for your baby, that is OK.


    15. Other parents lie.

    KaiLand / Via Babykailand

    All the other parents are lying about how well their babies are sleeping.


    16. Don't be ashamed of your body.

    17. You're doing just great.

    Familia Santos Iwama / Via

    From a dad after watching my amazing wife with our two wonderful boys: You're doing just great. You just brought a child into this world and that makes you amazing, no less than a superhero! No one gets it perfect but you're doing brilliant – that's why the baby smiles when they see Mummy. Just one more time, YOU ARE AMAZING!

    For the dads, she's going to be tired, maybe a little cranky, but that's OK because she's amazing (yes, there's a theme here). Give her some time off, do the changes, the nap times, the feeding at least once in a while and let Mummy have some peace. Maybe enough time to catch up on some sleep, because god knows she probably needs it.

    Hey mums, you're the best. Keep on being awesome.

    – John Powell, Facebook

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