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    This Bride's "Certificate Of Purity" Is Causing A Huge Debate Online

    She followed through with a covenant she made with her father when she was 13.

    Maryland bride Brelyn Bowman's wedding story is sparking a major discussion about how far women should go to prove their virginity.

    Freeman told BuzzFeed Life that he was caught off guard when Bowman gave him the certificate during her wedding.

    The story was picked up earlier this week by the Shade Room and TMZ, where the reaction was less than positive.

    The Shade Room's Instagram got more than 5,000 comments, many of them bashing Bowman for sharing the information with her father.

    From there, this annotated picture of the newlyweds began circulating on Facebook.

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    People like Vicki Yohe, her wedding singer, shared it in support, but many comments were critical, questioning things like the double standard associated with the practice.

    Some people wondered why her husband, who was also a virgin until marriage, didn't have to publicly prove anything.

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    Freeman told BuzzFeed Life that he took her husband's word on it, as there's no medical test that can prove a man's virginity.

    Others were touched by Bowman's fulfillment of her promise.

    Many were bewildered at Bowman's choice to present the certificate to her father, and not her husband.

    Someone rightly pointed out that an intact hymen isn't always a telltale sign of virginity.

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    As BuzzFeed Health previously reported, the amount of hymenal tissue you have is not a true indicator of whether or not you've had sex. Women are born with different amounts of hymenal tissue (and in some rare cases may not be born with any), so this tissue may be thinner to begin with or it may be worn away for a variety of reasons (like physical activity, masturbation, etc.).

    Another commenter noted that by this definition, women who have been sexually assaulted may not be considered "virgins," which is also problematic.

    Still others were simply put off by the public display of private information.

    But even before her wedding, Bowman proudly championed her lifestyle, sometimes calling herself a "Preacher of Purity."

    Bowman, owner of Breezy'z Boutique in Waldorf, Maryland, is still on her honeymoon, but has posted several updates defending her choice.

    She captioned this photo:

    Apparently some people on social media are trying to decide if they like or don't like my commitment of waiting/presenting a certificate to my dad. I started to want to explain/go in depth then I looked to my right my husband is swimming in the pool. I looked ahead & saw the Indian Ocean. So while they're deciding I'll enjoy the promises of God for my life!

    Bowman has not responded to BuzzFeed Life's request for comment.