We asked the BuzzFeed Community to open up about their sexual experiences with someone who has a micropenis. Here are the results.
In case you're wondering, the average erect penis is 5 inches long, while a micropenis is at least 2.5 standard deviations smaller (so, smaller than 7 centimeters or 2.75 inches). Also, about .6% of the male population has a micropenis.
Before we dive into the stories, we spoke to Dr. Kate Balestrieri, a licensed psychologist and certified sex addiction therapist, to get a better understanding of how a micropenis might impact sex. Here's what she said: “Whether someone has a large penis or a micropenis, the quality of their sexual experience with a partner depends largely on their non-penetrative behaviors. There are strap-ons and penis extenders that can offer a different tactile experience for penetration, if desired, but nothing can take the place of confidence, erotic kissing, amazing foreplay, and hot sexual energy. Focus on cultivating an experience that goes beyond penetration, cherish each other, and let sex become a whole body experience.”
1. This stamina king:
"I dated a guy with a micropenis for two years, and he was fantastic in bed, so it was never really an issue for us. We mostly learned what positions worked best because of his size. He had great stamina, so we'd routinely have sex for hours at a time – one of the pros of his smaller size. Thinking back, he was probably one of the best lovers I've had."
2. This intense threesome:
"My partner and I were on Grindr and got a message from a gorgeous Turkish man. We chatted, had a few drinks, and then took things to the bedroom. He was packing (maybe) two inches, max. We're not size queens, so we just went with it, and since he was a bottom it didn't really matter. He was a great kisser, very skilled orally, and even let us double penetrate him. Blowing him was a little different because his size made us alter our ~technique~. He also shot the two biggest loads I've ever seen. He was a really sweet and kind person and, overall, we had a great time. We repeated the encounter a few more times before he moved back to Turkey."
3. This lost condom:
"I had gone on a few dates with a guy, and the first time I gave him oral was when I saw his micropenis. Because it was so small, the overwhelming layer of pubes covering it kept getting stuck in my throat. It was like trying to suck a needle in a very hairy haystack. We then tried to have sex doggy-style, but it didn't really work, so he decided to lay down and have me get on top. He sort of rubbed his penis against my thigh for a while and occasionally touched parts of my vagina. It wasn't my best sexual experience, but it also wasn't my worst."
4. This freshman fun:
"I encountered a micropenis during my freshman year of college. It was only the second penis I'd ever seen, so I just thought my first boyfriend was very well-endowed. After I asked my friends if they'd ever seen a penis the size of a baby carrot before, I realized this guy had a micro. I liked him, so we'd keep hanging out and have oral sex. Blowing him was great and easy because I could fit the whole thing in my mouth without any problems. He never tried to have intercourse with me, and we never talked about it because I didn't feel like I could bring it up. The relationship ultimately fizzled out. Looking back, I'm not sure I thought about it beyond 'his penis is literally the size of my thumb.'"
5. This foreplay pro:
"Things were getting hot and heavy between a guy and me. Then I stuck my hands down his pants and couldn’t find anything. The experience was a little awkward, but he immediately said, 'I know I don’t have a lot going on down there, but I make up for it elsewhere.' And sure enough, he started going down on me, and it was incredible. He definitely knew what he was doing, and he loved to do it. I barely felt the actual sex, but he made sure I got off more than once before he did anything."
6. This life-changing anal:
"I was with an ex for two years, and he had a micropenis. I hadn't been with many other people before him, so I just didn't think of it as a big deal, especially since he rocked my world every time. When it was soft, it was basically nonexistent. When I think back, I'm still a little puzzled at how we made it work because I'm a big girl, but we definitely had an amazing sex life. So don't knock it until you try it! Also, anal was the best with him because of his penis."
7. This moaning man:
"I once hooked up with a guy who was really sweet. Things got hot and heavy, and the moment came when I put my hands down his trousers. I slid my hand down... and down... and around... and I kept going because I thought I had missed something. Suddenly, I came across what could only be described as a 'nub.' It was sort of like a weird lump. He moaned, and that's when it hit me that it was his penis. It was so small that I could only use my thumb and first finger to hold it, but he was having a great time and totally embracing it."
8. This flexible finger:
"One night I got high with an ex's friend. That led to us hooking up. When his pants came off, I saw that his penis was no bigger than the size of my thumb, maybe smaller. Luckily he was amazingly talented with his fingers, and we ended up getting so passionate that we fell off the bed and onto his guitar, which he then played in my ear while we kissed. To this day, it was one of the most romantic one-night stands I've ever had."
9. This open relationship:
"It was my first time hooking up with someone after opening up my relationship. The guy was good at oral, but oral isn't really my jam, so I dropped hints about wanting to takes things further. He pulled down his pants, and I could hardly see his penis. I ended up on top and just had to sort of grind, since it was too small to bounce. He knew how to work his fingers though, so no complaints from me."
10. This high school crush:
"I dated a guy who I had known in high school, but we didn't hook up until years later. When we got together, he was all about taking care of me, and he was amazing at it. When we finally did have sex, he gave me a warning that he wasn't very big. I've seen plenty of wieners before and wasn't worried about it. It was no bigger than my pinky. While I could barely feel anything during actual penetration, he was great about taking care of me after."
11. This practice session:
"I hooked up with a guy whose penis was about an inch long. It looked as skinny as a stick, but when we started to have sex it actually wasn’t bad. He was able to make it feel good. I hadn't had much experience at that time, so his penis made it a lot easier for me to try a bunch of different positions. I don’t regret it at all because I got to learn, and he still made everything nice, even with it being so little."
12. This unfortunate breakup:
"I once dated a guy who was gorgeous, but he kept acting a bit odd whenever my hands went near his crotch area. Then I found out why. His penis was so small that you could barely see it – it was literally the size of the tip of my finger. He was embarrassed, but I tried to get over it, and we did things other than sex. It was a real shame because all the other stuff we did was great, but he was so caught up with his micropenis that it made him freeze whenever we got intimate. We broke up after a few months, and part of it was due to our sexual incompatibility, which was unfortunate because I really fancied him."
13. This Tinder success:
"I met a guy through Tinder and didn’t even realize he had a micropenis until halfway through the hookup. He was all about my needs and knew exactly how to touch me and where. I had numerous orgasms before he even took off his pants, which is always a plus in my book. He was also super easy to please. Giving him a blowjob was super simple, and by the time we got to penile penetration, I was so sensitive that it was fabulous. It was easily one of my best sexual encounters!"
14. This true jaw-dropper:
"I'm bisexual but have a strong preference toward women, and to be honest the best sex I've had with a man was from a man with a micropenis. Not only did this mean he was more creative in bed than other men I've slept with – and also much more open to including toys (hollow dildos that stimulate him while adding a bit of length/girth to stimulate me are amazing) – but it was also a blessing to me. I've had a bunch of surgeries on my jaw and usually can't give oral sex to a man because my jaw can't open wide enough, which disappoints us both. For him, I can. It's great."
15. And this huge dick:
"I slept with a guy who had a micropenis. He was gorgeous. And, you know, the sex was pretty great. I think that, due to his perceived inadequacy, he worked much harder (no pun intended) to please me. Most guys just jackhammer you and roll over, but this guy took the time to understand my sexual tastes, which in itself turned me on. We saw each other a few times, and I continued to have fun. Then one day his girlfriend came home and caught us in the act. He had told me he was single. Moral of the story? Dicks come in various shapes and sizes, but in the end... a dick's a dick."
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.