Khalil Hymore Quasha, 39, and Scott Quasha, 37, with their two children.
What is your favorite thing about being a dad?
Khalil: Honestly, as cheesy as it sounds, one of my favorite aspects of being a dad is watching our children learn and grow. They're are always having these little developmental milestones and you can totally see the gears turning when they make associations or connections. Our daughter, whose 6 (soon to be 7 this summer) has grown into quite the conversationalist. Recently, she's become more and more aware of gay culture. She's always known what 'gay' was, but this year she's more curious about pride month — the parade, the history, the Golden Girls!
What do you want people to know about your family?
Khalil: On one hand, I want people to know nothing! It's easy to feel defensive in this world of ours. I mean, it goes without saying that we aren't different from other families. We struggle with the same parenting issues as any other household — time management, discipline, dinnertime, saving for college! But, I simultaneously want people to know everything because most people have little experience with families like ours.
Sometimes just the fact that we are a family at all can feel political — It can be burdensome. In certain settings it can also feel unsafe. I would also want people to know that words matter to a family like ours. We are constantly educating people on proper terminology (like "birth mother" vs "mother") and we are always so appreciative when forms or documents use terms like "parent" instead of 'mom' or 'dad.'