The 9 Realest Sex Struggles For Lesbians

The arm cramps are too real.

1. The fact that sex between two women is so complicated and technical, most people just will never understand its mysterious ways.

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2. And you have to live with the fact that most people will always assume it looks something like this:

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Check your sources, gents.

3. The cosmic rule, that surely exists, which states if you and your partner both have long hair it will be in the way at all times.

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Yes, even when you pull it back.

4. The fact that it is physically impossible to ~ remain sexy~ struggling to reach your partner’s chest while you’re going down on them.

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Arms are not long enough sometimes.

5. When things are just heating up and you can feel your hand cramping so you send up a goddamn prayer for your muscles to hold out juuuust a bit longer.

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6. Trying to stop your partner from laughing the first time you try on a strap-on so you can actually get down to business.

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7. When your bodies make “that noise” and you have to try and stay ~ in the zone ~ and not bust out laughing.

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Sometimes you do laugh, but that’s OK too.

8. Not knowing the proper etiquette of wiping your hand off. Sheets? Excuse yourself to the bathroom?

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Don’t lie, you’ve been there.

9. And finally, living with the heavy weight of knowing you’re having better sex than probably everyone else on Earth and it’s just your burden to bear.

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Stay strong out there.

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Sarah Karlan is the Deputy LGBT Editor for BuzzFeed News and is based in New York.
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