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How Did Your Friends Or Family Support You When You Came Out As Trans?

Sometimes it's the smallest gestures that mean the most.

Coming out as trans or starting to transition can be a seriously stressful and often overwhelming time. Having friends and family to lean on for support can really make all the difference.

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If you are lucky enough to have parents or friends who are supportive, what did they say or do to make you feel comfortable and confident in yourself?

Maybe it was something as simple as letting you know that they are 100% there are for you:

Maybe they asked a whole bunch of questions and (even if you didn't have all the answers) you appreciated them starting an honest conversation:


And maybe you had a friend who didn't do much talking, but was a fantastic listener.

Or maybe they did some research so they could better understand what you were going through:

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Actions can speak louder than words.

Maybe your mom cracked a few jokes to break the ice and assure you everything was going to be A-OK:

Acceptance doesn't always come overnight, it can take some time.

Sometimes even small gestures, like someone using correct pronouns, can mean the most:

Maybe it was just hearing, "I love you."

What did parents, friends, or other important people in your life do or say that really helped you feel comfortable and confident in your identity? What do you wish they had done or said through your coming out or transition?

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What helped and, more importantly, what didn't? Your experience could help out people who are looking to support trans people in their own lives.

Share your stories and experiences in the comments below for a chance to be featured in an upcoming LGBT post!