That Strangely Emotional Moment When You See Another Lesbian In Public

Whispers: “Same.”

As a queer lady, you’re probably used to waltzing through life as the minority in the room — so if you’re out in public and feel your radar pinging on someone?

Well, it looks something like this:

2. It’s a tale as old as time. An unexplainable feeling.

4. It begins with spotting someone across the room / street / bar. Maybe they’re walking just so or their haircut suggests something you can’t put your finger on. Whatever it is, you’re pinged.

6. Now, you’re not one to stereotype — but sometimes the facts cannot be denied.

7. Things get creepy real fast because you can’t stop staring.


You probably wonder, “Am I giving off the vibes too?”

8. You’re not staring because you’re trying to be flirty, but simply because of that “hey, me too!” feeling.


Or maybe you are checking her out, but this is about the unspoken lady-loving bond.

9. Most likely it gets super awkward when they catch you looking, but you can’t help it.

Seeing another lesbian in public like

— Emily Cooper (@coopa_troop)

10. Seeing a couple is practically the double rainbow of sightings. Let it fill your heart with unexpected joy.

There's something great about seeing another lesbian couple in public.

— Kacie Brown (@AquioMoto)

11. They probably think you’re gawking because you don’t approve or because you’re being an overly eager ally. You just want to be like:

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12. But, that would be weird. So instead you have a little moment to yourself and just as quickly as this strange emotional rollercoaster began —it’s all over.

13. Until we invent some universal handshake or sign, this is the best we can do.

When I see another gay couple in public I get hyped. Is that weird?

— jam (@jesseniaaa_m)

14. <3 <3 <3 <3

Whenever my girl and I see another gay couple in public that we may not even know we always look at each other, smile, and whisper "FAMILY."

— Motownlesbians✌️ (@MOTOWNLESBIANS)

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Sarah Karlan is the Deputy LGBT Editor for BuzzFeed News and is based in New York.
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