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People Share Their Favorite Things About Having Two Moms

Double the mommas, double the love.

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Mother's Day is a time to show appreciation for that very special woman in your life — or, in some cases, both the special women in your life.

The struggle of having two moms 😂

We connected with COLAGE (an organization for people with one or more LGBT parent/caregiver) to ask those blessed with double the moms to share why they're thankful for their unique family. Here's what they told us:

1. "My moms really exposed me to having a sense of adventure and being open to travel and learn about new cultures and people."

Wendy, 34"I call them 'my moms' or my 'Ms. Daisies' since I drive them around.The best part about having two moms is that I have been fortunate to learn from both of them equally. I have learned how to be an extremely strong, independent female, while also strengthening my femininity as each of my moms have contrasting and complementary characteristics that I can grow from. Not many girls can say they had two positive female role models in their life. I have been fortunate to have two moms for most of my life, ever since I was about 4 years old. My moms really exposed me to having a sense of adventure and being open to travel and learn about new cultures and people. It was always like a 'girls' weekend' when we would be together. Now that we are older, it's like 'hanging with the girls'."
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Wendy, 34

"I call them 'my moms' or my 'Ms. Daisies' since I drive them around.

The best part about having two moms is that I have been fortunate to learn from both of them equally. I have learned how to be an extremely strong, independent female, while also strengthening my femininity as each of my moms have contrasting and complementary characteristics that I can grow from. Not many girls can say they had two positive female role models in their life.

I have been fortunate to have two moms for most of my life, ever since I was about 4 years old. My moms really exposed me to having a sense of adventure and being open to travel and learn about new cultures and people. It was always like a 'girls' weekend' when we would be together. Now that we are older, it's like 'hanging with the girls'."

"I just want to tell them both that I love them so much and thank you for teaching me at such a young age that true love has no barriers, has no conditions, and what a boring world this would be if we weren't open to learning from each other's differences."

"Thank you for helping me become the woman I am today. Happy Mothers' Day moms!"
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"Thank you for helping me become the woman I am today. Happy Mothers' Day moms!"

2. "The best part of having two moms, is having two parents — their gender does not change how much they love me."

Seth, 16"I grew up calling Nina 'Mom' and Stacy 'Pop'.The best part of having two moms, is having two parents. Their gender does not change how much they love me. I only know this style of family, and from what I've seen it's not that different from heterosexual families. Mother's day is pretty interesting in my house, we generally just have a day of appreciation for everything my parents do, nothing frilly, just love. I love how compassionate, hard working, kind, and helpful they are. I also love how they were the couple that sued the state of Vermont and helped make same-sex unions legal in the first state to have any sort of LGBTQ union."
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Seth, 16

"I grew up calling Nina 'Mom' and Stacy 'Pop'.

The best part of having two moms, is having two parents. Their gender does not change how much they love me. I only know this style of family, and from what I've seen it's not that different from heterosexual families.

Mother's day is pretty interesting in my house, we generally just have a day of appreciation for everything my parents do, nothing frilly, just love.

I love how compassionate, hard working, kind, and helpful they are. I also love how they were the couple that sued the state of Vermont and helped make same-sex unions legal in the first state to have any sort of LGBTQ union."

"Thank you for continuing to motivate me and excite me about my own future. I would not have so many amazing opportunities in front of my without you, and for that I am so deeply thankful."

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3. "The best part about having two moms is having two loving, strong, and resilient women to look up to."

Kaley, 25"I call both of our mom's 'mom'. If they are both in the same room, I call them "Mom and Jojo.The best part about having two moms is having two loving, strong, and resilient women to look up to. Throughout our lives they have been such strong leaders in our community and have modeled a beautiful partnership that I aspire to one day have. This past year has been one of the hardest years of our lives after losing my little brother and because of that our bonds have become stronger. My family has also experienced the strength and love of our community first hand. I have felt the depth of connection and support from the web of relationships my moms created to support our family and am so thankful for our larger COLAGE and LGBTQ family. I love my moms for their endless strength and resiliency in the face of tragedy and adversity."
The day same-sex marriage was legalized in North Carolina.

Kaley, 25

"I call both of our mom's 'mom'. If they are both in the same room, I call them "Mom and Jojo.

The best part about having two moms is having two loving, strong, and resilient women to look up to. Throughout our lives they have been such strong leaders in our community and have modeled a beautiful partnership that I aspire to one day have.

This past year has been one of the hardest years of our lives after losing my little brother and because of that our bonds have become stronger. My family has also experienced the strength and love of our community first hand. I have felt the depth of connection and support from the web of relationships my moms created to support our family and am so thankful for our larger COLAGE and LGBTQ family. I love my moms for their endless strength and resiliency in the face of tragedy and adversity."

"This Mother's day I would like to tell my moms that I will always love them and I will always be there for them, like they have always been there for me — even when I was a hard-headed teen."

"Their love has not gone unnoticed and I am so thankful for their support. Moms, I know if Joseph were here he would want you to know how special you both are. We love you Mom and Jojo."
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"Their love has not gone unnoticed and I am so thankful for their support. Moms, I know if Joseph were here he would want you to know how special you both are. We love you Mom and Jojo."

4. "My dad came out as transgender about a year ago and things changed in our family — I believe for the better."

Heather Griffiths, 30"My dad (now Kimberly) came out as transgender about a year ago and things changed in our family — I believe for the better. The best part about having two moms and a stepmom is my different but equally special relationships with all of them."
Heather skydiving for her 30th birthday with Kimberly watching from the ground.

Heather Griffiths, 30

"My dad (now Kimberly) came out as transgender about a year ago and things changed in our family — I believe for the better. The best part about having two moms and a stepmom is my different but equally special relationships with all of them."

Kimberly and Heather's stepmom, Sally, at her 30th birthday dinner.
Heather's biological mom cuddling with her nephew Cody.

"My biological mom, Kathleen, is my best friend. We have always been very close and I share everything with her. We take vacations just the two of us and spend a lot of time talking.

My Stepmom Sally and I haven't always had the easiest relationship I was very young when she married my Dad and I of course went through a bit if a rebellious teen phase and we weren't always as close. That only strengthened our relationship to what it is today. She is my mom, my friend, and provides a completely different perspective and advice than my mom. I am so thankful to have her in my life and most thankful my dad has her in her life.

My dad (who I still call 'dad' in private — we're a work in progress), who is now, or maybe has always really been a woman, is a special relationship. I grew up with her as my goofy dad who taught me about music and life and acceptance. She is now for all intents and purposes my mom. One of them! We are currently trying to figure out a name that fits her and is still a term we can use, other than her name, that's parental. We've looked things up and have found some cute ones like 'Mad' (mom and dad mixed) or 'Moppa' (momma and poppa mixed), but none feel exactly right for us. Everyone is constantly changing and evolving as is our family."

"As we were just in the beginning stages of my dad transitioning, last Mother's Day she chose to celebrate Father's Day. This Mother's Day will be my first to celebrate with all three of my Moms!"

Kimberly and Sally with Heather's niece, Michaela, at her first dance recital.

5. "The best part about having two moms is that I never seem to run out of feminine hygiene products because in my house the cabinet in the bathroom for tampons is always fully stocked!"

Erica, 22"Mother’s Day is extra special to me — it’s also extra work! I put in double the elbow grease to make it count.Since I’m at college, I mail them gifts; I send my biological mom a package decorated on the interior with circa 1970’s National Geographic landscape cut outs and I also send my stepmom a special card. My stepmom is the good kind, not the evil Disney kind. What I love about my moms is that they wear matching costumes on Halloween. Last year they were gum-ball machines, and the year before? Bananas."
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Erica, 22

"Mother’s Day is extra special to me — it’s also extra work! I put in double the elbow grease to make it count.

Since I’m at college, I mail them gifts; I send my biological mom a package decorated on the interior with circa 1970’s National Geographic landscape cut outs and I also send my stepmom a special card. My stepmom is the good kind, not the evil Disney kind. What I love about my moms is that they wear matching costumes on Halloween. Last year they were gum-ball machines, and the year before? Bananas."

"If I had the chance to tell my moms something this Mother’s Day, it would be this: Cheers for all the good times and the bad! Thank you for sticking by me at my worst."

6. "Sometimes I wish my parents were both just stereotypical lesbians who would be cool if I let them watch sports and talk about the new way to style their short hair."

Ava, 15"I love having two moms because they are both cool, quirky, fun loving people just like all normal families are in this day and age. However, I do NOT like having two moms on mother's day. This Mother's Day, like every other Mother's Day, will be double the work for my sister and I. Again, having two moms is great, (most of the time) but what was obviously looked past in the creation of this alleged holiday is the fact that two moms is double the work! Luckily, our parents aren't that high-maintenance and they let us off the hook with nice cards and breakfast in bed. Firstly, it's hard to please them because they are SO different. Sometimes I wish my parents were both just stereotypical lesbians who would be cool if I let them watch sports and talk about the new way to style their short hair. But no, of course I get stuck with one mom who would rather be shopping, and one mom who would rather be watching tennis."
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Ava, 15

"I love having two moms because they are both cool, quirky, fun loving people just like all normal families are in this day and age. However, I do NOT like having two moms on mother's day.

This Mother's Day, like every other Mother's Day, will be double the work for my sister and I. Again, having two moms is great, (most of the time) but what was obviously looked past in the creation of this alleged holiday is the fact that two moms is double the work! Luckily, our parents aren't that high-maintenance and they let us off the hook with nice cards and breakfast in bed.

Firstly, it's hard to please them because they are SO different. Sometimes I wish my parents were both just stereotypical lesbians who would be cool if I let them watch sports and talk about the new way to style their short hair. But no, of course I get stuck with one mom who would rather be shopping, and one mom who would rather be watching tennis."

"Still, my family figures it out every Mother's Day and we always end up celebrating the love that we have for our moms — and the love they have for each other."

"I hope we make you proud this Mother's Day, Love Ava."
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"I hope we make you proud this Mother's Day, Love Ava."