25 Things You Will Only Understand If You’ve Dated Someone In The Closet

You’re in a relationship, with none of the perks of being in a relationship. Let the roller coaster of emotions begin.

1. Feeling like a crazy person most of the time. All of the time. Always.

2. Not being able to kiss in public.

4. Making it Facebook official? Out of the question.

It’s not that important, you don’t need — shut up, it is everything.

5. Watching your girlfriend or boyfriend tell someone they are single — right in front of you.

6. And get hit on — right in front of you.

7. Convincing yourself the situation doesn’t bother you one bit.

8. Mastering the swift exit when you get hit on yourself.

9. Suffering from constant paranoia that EVERYONE knows.

10. The complete terror that grips you when one of you nearly lets the cat out of the bag.

11. Being in a relationship, but being unable to share it with other special people in your life.

12. So you’re technically “single” — with none of the perks of being single.

13. Trying to convince yourself that you don’t need people to know in order to validate your relationship.

Because when you’re alone together, it feels like everything is perfect.

14. Complaining about couples’ PDA…

…when you’re really just insanely jealous they can even be that way.

15. Having to be introduced to their family as “just a friend.”

16. Knowing that public over-the-top romantic gestures aren’t allowed.

17. Becoming a master of going on “secret dates” and avoiding people you know.

18. Having all your friends think you’re becoming an antisocial hermit, when you’re really just staying in with your significant other.

19. Having to lie about where that hickey came from.

20. Having your friends, parents, and grandparents ask why you’re not seeing anyone.

21. And in response, totally lying through your teeth.

Over and over and over again.

22. Having the situation mess with your head so much, you start to question the relationship.

23. Becoming that clingy needy person you NEVER wanted to be.

24. Having to keep the insane amount of emotions running through your head bottled up inside.

25. Knowing that for better or worse…you would probably do it all over again.

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Sarah Karlan is the Deputy LGBT Editor for BuzzFeed News and is based in New York.
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