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30 Dating Tips People Wish They Knew In Their Twenties

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The struggle is too real. So we asked members of the BuzzFeed Community to tell us what they wish they knew about dating and relationships when they were in their twenties. Here’s what they said:

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7. Don't feel pressured to achieve any specific milestone by any specific time.

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"There is no specific timeline that you have to achieve any specific milestone. Some of your friends are going to get married and start having babies early. Others will wait a bit longer. If you're not one of the first to achieve either or both of those milestones (if that's what you want), it's okay. It will happen when the time is right. It's better to be single than stuck with the wrong person." –Jen Stone, Facebook

8. Believe people's actions, not their words.

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"If he/she's not contacting you, or playing games, or being flaky, etc., it's pretty clear what they actually think, despite what they may have said." –Mcfly7719

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12. Know that your "ideal" partner can change over time. So just do you right now.

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"Focus on yourself, your goals, and with time, the right one will come around. After all, your 20s are the perfect time for you to explore and really find yourself. Besides, what you saw as an 'ideal' partner back in college may be totally different now!" –Valeria Marquez, Facebook

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14. First, learn to be okay by yourself.

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"Be okay with being by yourself. You'll enjoy it so much more when you add someone meaningful to your life and even when things don't work out, you'll still have that joy of being with yourself." – Danit Ehrlich, Facebook

15. And don't feel like you need to change for anyone.

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"Don't change who you are for ANYONE! You can adapt and try to take an interest in things that they love, but never change the essence of you. Never lose yourself. The right person would never want you to." –NurseTina3938

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16. Just because they're perfect, doesn't mean they're perfect for you.

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"They may be the perfect person, but they may not be the perfect person for you. You'll know when it's the right person to stick with." –Sharon Walles, Facebook

18. Don't stay in a dead relationship just because you're comfortable.

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"Just because it's comfortable, doesn't always mean it's right for either of you. Don't be afraid to go after what you want, and do not be afraid to be on your own. You are far stronger than you think you are!" –Cait G.

19. Don't try to find yourself through a relationship.

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"Find yourself, then the right relationship will find YOU. A relationship will never work out when one or both people are only half done downloading." –John Shinners, Facebook.

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20. And don't give SO much of yourself without getting anything in return.

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"You need to both be in a position where you can sacrifice and compromise." –Alice Louisa Davies, Facebook

21. Really take into consideration what your friends and family have to say.

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"If all your friends and family tell you that he/she is a creep, hear them out. Especially if they tell you this repeatedly. They love you and want you to be happy." –janetm43885b0d5

23. "Know when to throw in the towel."

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"You can't strong arm someone into their potential." –Kate Morrone, Facebook

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25. Absolutely don't let anyone mistreat you.

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"Do not stand for bad behavior of any kind — cheating, shouting, lashing out at you and making you feel like shit — if any of this happens, LEAVE!" –Gabi Garb

27. "Know that you're good enough. Anyone would be lucky to have you."

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28. Don't stay with someone because you think you can change them.

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"You CANNOT change that very interesting 'bad guy.' Don't be afraid to set limits. Don't be afraid to communicate your needs. If he isn't able to fulfill them or at least compromise, it won't work out." –kaa

29. Be with someone who genuinely makes you really super happy.

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"No one should make you cry more than they make you laugh." –hanny12080

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