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Posted on Apr 17, 2017

What I Learned From Six Seasons Of "Girls"

"I’m an individual and I feel how I feel when I feel it."

by romiimor

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I started watching the show as a freshman in college in NYC.

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I thought life was hard. It was preciously easy.

I spent the first few episodes trying to decide which character I was.

I even asked friends because nothing screams “I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM" more than asking people who are you or what you're like or what path you should take.

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Was anyone ever so young? I was/am.

None were the perfect fit but I learned how to appreciate a show about 4 women without feeling I had to fit just one character or try to be the “Hannah” or "Jessa” of my friend group.

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What does that "type of girl" even mean?

And actually, your idea of who "The Jessa" of the friend group is, isn't who Jessa is or who your friend really is. People are always more complicated and nuanced than we give them credit for.

This show taught me friendship gives you life, but your life can’t be your friend’s.

Dreams change.

Life isn't so much about making the right decision, but making a decision.

And yes, you can un-choose that choice. Just make a new decision.

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Of course, life is complicated, but sometimes, the only choice we have is to not accept the direction those past decisions are leading us in.

So feel your feelings.

You can take Hannah's departure as your personal sign from the universe that you don’t have to forfeit your happiness by latching onto your younger self's vision of what your life would and should look like at whatever age.

Our growth and worth as people, friends, lovers and workers isn’t defined by a number of seasons or hours clocked in or jobs since you graduated or whatever life metric of success you use.

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What I Learned From Six Seasons Of "Girls"

I started watching the show as a freshman in college in NYC.

I spent the first few episodes trying to decide which character I was.

I even asked friends because nothing screams “I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM" more than asking people who are you or what you're like or what path you should take.

None were the perfect fit but I learned how to appreciate a show about 4 women without feeling I had to fit just one character or try to be the “Hannah” or "Jessa” of my friend group.

And actually, your idea of who "The Jessa" of the friend group is, isn't who Jessa is or who your friend really is. People are always more complicated and nuanced than we give them credit for.

This show taught me friendship gives you life, but your life can’t be your friend’s.

Dreams change.

Life isn't so much about making the right decision, but making a decision.

And yes, you can un-choose that choice. Just make a new decision.

So feel your feelings.

You can take Hannah's departure as your personal sign from the universe that you don’t have to forfeit your happiness by latching onto your younger self's vision of what your life would and should look like at whatever age.

Our growth and worth as people, friends, lovers and workers isn’t defined by a number of seasons or hours clocked in or jobs since you graduated or whatever life metric of success you use.

You don't need anyone's permission.

Thank you, Girls. 6 years wiser, I am still not a girl, not yet a woman.

And for the first time, I’m okay with that.

What I Learned From Six Seasons Of "Girls"

I started watching the show as a freshman in college in NYC.

I spent the first few episodes trying to decide which character I was.

I even asked friends because nothing screams “I DON'T KNOW WHO I AM" more than asking people who are you or what you're like or what path you should take.

None were the perfect fit but I learned how to appreciate a show about 4 women without feeling I had to fit just one character or try to be the “Hannah” or "Jessa” of my friend group.

And actually, your idea of who "The Jessa" of the friend group is, isn't who Jessa is or who your friend really is. People are always more complicated and nuanced than we give them credit for.

This show taught me friendship gives you life, but your life can’t be your friend’s.

Dreams change.

Life isn't so much about making the right decision, but making a decision.

And yes, you can un-choose that choice. Just make a new decision.

So feel your feelings.

You can take Hannah's departure as your personal sign from the universe that you don’t have to forfeit your happiness by latching onto your younger self's vision of what your life would and should look like at whatever age.

Our growth and worth as people, friends, lovers and workers isn’t defined by a number of seasons or hours clocked in or jobs since you graduated or whatever life metric of success you use.

You don't need anyone's permission.

Thank you, Girls. 6 years wiser, I am still not a girl, not yet a woman.

And for the first time, I’m okay with that.

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