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10 Questions It's Never OK To Ask A Transgender Person

According to Against Me!'s Laura Jane Grace.

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Maybe you've heard of Against Me!, the incredible Florida punk rock band whose literate and voluble anthems have been celebrated by basically every major music outlet and Bruce Springsteen.

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Warner Bros. Records.

Early this year, the band released Transgender Dysphoria Blues, its critically acclaimed sixth album and first since lead singer/songwriter Laura Jane Grace came out as transgender in 2012.

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Against Me!

On Oct. 10, Grace will follow up Transgender Dysphoria Blues with True Trans, a 10-part AOL web series about the real lives of transgender people across America.

If you want to be smarter about transgender issues, or just a generally better human, here are 10 questions to never ask a transgender person.

1. "Which bathroom do you use?"

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"For the most part, I do try to take the approach that there's no such thing as a stupid question," Grace said. "But there are some stupid fucking questions."

3. "Are you sure you aren't just gay?"

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"The phrasing of this one is pretty rude," Grace said. "And unfortunately a lot of people are just confused about the difference between gender and sexuality."

7. "Why don't you try harder to look like a woman/man?"

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"This implies that there's a standard for how to be a woman or how to be a man, which is just bullshit," Grace said.

8. "Are you going to change your voice?"

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"How do you know that the person isn't already trying to change their voice?" Grace said. "This immediately cuts them down to size."

10. "How do you have sex?"

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"Why not be a little fucking creative?" Grace said. "You can figure out how to fuck in any situation if you really put your mind to it."

Watch the trailer for True Trans below.

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