Ever since Jonah Hill's ex-girlfriend, Sarah Brady, posted alleged texts from him on her Instagram stories, accusing him of emotional abuse last week, a lot of people on Twitter have been discussing the specific and hurtful things he said.
Unfortunately, this happens way too often — so much so that when Reddit user u/thedamned234 asked: "What is the worst thing your ex said during the breakup?" close to four thousand people responded. Here's what they had to say below:
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1. "My last ex left me for the person she was cheating on me with, after three years together. When she came to get the last of her stuff, she would only talk about how she was worried she'd screwed things up with her new partner, because he didn't know she was with me at the time. She'd lied to him and just said I was someone she lived with. She wasn't even sorry about what she'd done to me, just that it was causing problems with the person she actually cared about. It's been hard to feel good about myself since then."
2. "I can have any guy in this room, why would I want to be with you?"
3. "You'll never be a great father (before I even had children). There was no reason why she should have said that except I held off having children with her because she was a heavy smoker and lied about quitting. I am now a father of two in a happy marriage of nine-plus years. My kids tell me they love me every night, and I spend almost all my money on them making memories, not stuff."
4. "After I financially supported her for three years, I paid the travel expenses for American Idol auditions and one America's Got Talent audition. After I nursed her through her recovery after gastric bypass surgery, she said, 'You are worthless, and I don't have time for you anymore.'
5. "I know this won't sound bad, but it destroyed me. I was married for 25 years, and in that 25 years, I sacrificed everything for him and our four kids. I worked two and three jobs while putting him through college. He never used the degree by the way. I paid the majority of the bills and still did all the domestic duties. We stopped having sex at the 12-year mark (it was his choice because sex was too much work and not important to him). He never bought me gifts or did anything like take care of me if I was sick, although I cared for him after numerous hospital stays. One day, I asked him why he married me just to use me. He said, 'I married a friend. I never loved you like a girlfriend but you were my friend, so I thought that was good enough. I'm happy, so as my friend that should make you happy.' 25 years of my youth (we married at 18) squandered on a 'friendship.'"
6. "During my second two-year relationship, my partner said, 'I feel disgusted when I touch you.' That ate at me for a while. Much healthier and happy spot now."
7. "'You're too insecure.' Then I said, 'You know what, I am very insecure, and I never think I deserve anything or anyone. What does it say about you that you're all I can aspire to?' She didn't like that."
8. "After five and a half years: 'I was just afraid I would end up alone, so I settled for you.' Immediately after the breakup, she had a new boyfriend."
9. "Both 'I love you' and a very short time later, 'I know we can fix it, I just don't want to.' This is from my ex-wife."
10. "I wish you didn’t get better. It would have been so much easier that way."
11. "After telling me there’s nothing to worry about between him and his childhood best friend who lives on the other side of the world (he and she apparently have always shared a special bond), he texted me saying, 'It was her. It will always be her; it is inevitable two years into our relationship when she finally visited him after years. It happened on New Year’s Day, too."
12. "I found a girl better than you."
13. "My ex broke up with me almost two years ago and it almost killed me. The 'Don't you see you're depressed, I can't stand it anymore' line was the worst thing anyone has ever told me. It made me feel bad for feeling bad like it was my mistake or something I chose. When I think about it now, it just makes me sad because she probably was the love of my life."
14. "Throughout our relationship, we would talk about just moving away from our little hometown to California by the beach. Towards the end of our relationship, I mentioned 'What if we just left now for California like we always said and started over?' To which she replied, 'All those times we talked about that, I was really just picturing getting away from you.' This happened three years ago, and I still think of this occasionally."
15. "You are supposed to make me want to be a better person but you make me worse."
16. “This life with you is not enough. YOU are not enough. This marriage is not my priority.”
17. “'There is a reason why my friends hate you, and your friends invite me over for coffee.' That was already 10 minutes into a conversation where I tried to reason with him. This cut me so bad, that I just walked out of the door without saying a word. He ran after me 10 minutes later, called me 15 times, and even shew up at my place, banging on my door to let him in 'to have a talk!' There was a lot of toxicity in that relationship. I do hope he will use the time to work on himself."
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