People Are Using #WhyIDidntReport To Explain Why They Didn't Report Being Sexual Assaulted
The viral hashtag was sparked by a recent tweet from President Trump regarding Dr. Christine Blasey Ford's sexual assault allegations against Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh. "Why didn’t someone call the FBI 36 years ago?" the president asked. Trigger warning: This post contains mentions of rape, sexual assault, and violence.
Earlier this morning, President Donald Trump took to Twitter to directly address the sexual assault allegations made by Dr. Christine Blasey Ford against his Supreme Court nominee Brett Kavanaugh:
In a follow-up tweet, President Trump asked "Why didn’t someone call the FBI 36 years ago?", referring to the time that had passed since Dr. Ford's alleged assault by Kavanaugh during their high school years. The president's loaded question prompted hundreds of sexual assault victims to share their own reasons for not contacting authorities via the now-viral #WhyIDidntReport hashtag.
1."I told my mother when I was a teenager and she told me never to tell my father because he would kill our [neighbor's] son."
2."Because I was in a combat zone in Afghanistan & assaulted by one of my teammates."
3."I was 7 years old, she was my mom's best friend. I didn't want my mom to lose her best friend, and I didn't want to be known as a rape victim."
4."Because the first adult I told, my mom, said she didn't believe me. She said my brother was a 'good kid.'"
5."Because we were in a FWB situation and I knew no one would believe me because of that."
6."Because I was a new private in the Army, deployed overseas, and didn't know anyone. I trusted him because he was my NCO."
7."My mom said she would kill anyone who hurt me and at 9 years old I believed her."
8."He was the nephew of my father’s girlfriend at the time & was older & stronger than me... I thought he’d hurt me more & that nobody would believe me."
9."I was afraid it would ruin my professional reputation before I had even started."
10."...because I had been drinking, because I couldn’t believe that it had happened. Because I’ve been conditioned to believe I asked for it. That was 1,784 days ago."
11."I was confused. In denial. Afraid... Ppl liked him. The only friend I told--responded w: 'He wld never do that.' I didn't think anyone would help me."
12."Because I felt no one listened to me or would believe a guy married and who has kids would do such a thing. Or that my ex would take advantage of me."
13."Because I was little boy and 'girls can't assault boys' was a social narrative. Little did I know she was acting out because she was a victim too."
14."Because of the shame I felt after going to the doctor the day after, the way they made me feel as if I let it happen."
15."It was 'only' sexual assault, not rape, so not serious enough to waste people's time with when I knew other people had been through worse."
16."I didn’t kick and scream like I’d been taught, so it had to be my fault, right?"
17."I had to wait until after my suicidal father died because I was scared he would do something awful to the perps or himself. His misery was far more important than mine when I was 17."
18."Because we know the questions people will ask: what were you wearing? Were you drinking? Did you give them any signs to indicate you were into them? Were you flirting? The victim blaming starts immediately."
19."Because the next morning everyone in the house clapped as if they were proud this 19yo 'man' had sex with me. I was 16yo. That gave me the impression it wasn’t a bad thing."
20."He was a friend of my brothers. I had five of them and they and my dad would have killed him. I couldn’t be the cause of my family being torn apart. I was 13."
21."Because he was my boyfriend and I wasn't supposed to have one. So I couldn't tell anyone when he became a monster."
22."Because I had spent years cultivating a tomboy reputation and didn't want to admit I couldn't fight him off."
23."I loved him and I thought he would kill himself."
If you or someone you love has been affected by sexual violence, check out the resources available on the National Sexual Violence Resource Center or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 1-800-656-4673 to talk to a trained professional.