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What Body Shamers Say Vs. What Their Words Actually Mean

Hint: You're not the actual problem. Not at all.

What they say:

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What they mean:

This chatterbox is just as clueless about your health and metabolism as they are about what a single sandwich could possibly do to a person's body composition. Next!
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This chatterbox is just as clueless about your health and metabolism as they are about what a single sandwich could possibly do to a person's body composition. Next!

What they say:

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What they mean:

This walking thesaurus has found an adjective to describe her body that just seems *right*. That's awesome! Unfortunately, she's been conditioned to think that embracing her own body means disparaging the bodies of others. The truth is, people who are truly confident in themselves aren't looking for competition.
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This walking thesaurus has found an adjective to describe her body that just seems *right*. That's awesome! Unfortunately, she's been conditioned to think that embracing her own body means disparaging the bodies of others. The truth is, people who are truly confident in themselves aren't looking for competition.

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What they say:

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What they mean:

Or in other words, "It makes more sense to me to rudely question you, a human with naturally occurring hair, than it does to question an industry that makes money off causing humans to feel shame about their naturally occurring hair." Riiiight.
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Or in other words, "It makes more sense to me to rudely question you, a human with naturally occurring hair, than it does to question an industry that makes money off causing humans to feel shame about their naturally occurring hair." Riiiight.

What they say:

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What they mean:

Actually, friend, dramatically covering your eyes and screaming about whatever you don't like is exactly how children act.
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Actually, friend, dramatically covering your eyes and screaming about whatever you don't like is exactly how children act.

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What they say:

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What they mean:

"You know, like how I haven’t climbed Mount Everest so I don’t believe it exists. And besides, neat labels are more important than treating people with respect." Ahem.
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"You know, like how I haven’t climbed Mount Everest so I don’t believe it exists. And besides, neat labels are more important than treating people with respect." Ahem.

What they say...

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What they mean:

Nope. Shut it down.
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Nope. Shut it down.

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What they say:

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What they mean:

AKA "I've always been taught that happiness is intertwined with being below a certain size. I don’t understand how you can not be thin and still be happy, and since what I don’t understand scares me, I’d prefer you stop." This is called "body currency." Read about it here and things may start making a lot more sense to you, whichever side of the shaming you're on.
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AKA "I've always been taught that happiness is intertwined with being below a certain size. I don’t understand how you can not be thin and still be happy, and since what I don’t understand scares me, I’d prefer you stop."

This is called "body currency." Read about it here and things may start making a lot more sense to you, whichever side of the shaming you're on.

What they say:

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What they mean:

One cool thing about all living in separate bodies is that we don't all have to look or act the same way! Mind. Blown.
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One cool thing about all living in separate bodies is that we don't all have to look or act the same way! Mind. Blown.

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What they say:

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What they mean:

Says a whole lot more about the shamer than anyone else, doesn't it?
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Says a whole lot more about the shamer than anyone else, doesn't it?

What they say:

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What they mean:

This person wouldn’t advise you medically on cancer, pregnancy, or other health issues because they're not a doctor at all, let alone your doctor — not that all doctors are unbiased. They deserve to be shaken (verbally, of course) out of their own delusion.
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This person wouldn’t advise you medically on cancer, pregnancy, or other health issues because they're not a doctor at all, let alone your doctor — not that all doctors are unbiased. They deserve to be shaken (verbally, of course) out of their own delusion.

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What they say:

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What they mean:

Keep a copy of the US Constitution handy for this shamer; he tends to think calling him out on his nonsense is "censorship" or "denying [his] First Amendment rights."
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Keep a copy of the US Constitution handy for this shamer; he tends to think calling him out on his nonsense is "censorship" or "denying [his] First Amendment rights."

What they say:

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What they need to hear:

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