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    If You're Enjoying Lots Of Sex, Here Are 23 Essentials You Should Probably Keep Handy

    TBH, "lots" is subjective, but if you're having sex, you should probably check this list out anyways.

    We hope you love the products we recommend! All of them were independently selected by our editors. Some may have been sent as samples, but all opinions and reviews are our own. Just so you know, BuzzFeed may collect a share of sales or other compensation from the links on this page if you decide to shop from them. Oh, and FYI — prices are accurate and items in stock as of time of publication.

    1. An Eva vibrator by Dame designed with flexible wings to tuck under the labia and nest on the vulva, stimulating them with three vibration intensities. *hint* Introduce it into couples' play for extra good vibes.

    Model holding green vibrator in front of torso
    Model reaching for pink egg-shaped vibrator on bed
    @dameproducts / Via, Dame

    Promising reviews: "Stopping contemplating and just buy it! Absolutely no regrets! The silicone is so soft it’s addicting to just hold it. The settings make it great for solo pleasure or with a partner. This invention is worth the investment. 😍🤤" —Rachel B.

    "OK, the Eva II is a game changer. It’s insanely comfortable and easy to use. The three levels of vibration are perfection (level three changing). I bought this to use with my husband but have only used it solo so far. Eva is the second toy I’ve ever purchased! I honestly had the most intense orgasm I’ve ever had with the first use. I highly recommend this and can’t wait to use it with my husband. It does take a bit of moving around at first to figure out how it fits best for you!" —Kelsey R.

    Get it from Dame for $135 or Amazon for $119+ (available in quartz or fir).

    2. An 8-oz. supply of water-based lube because there is zero shame in adding a little assistance and 65,000 people (and counting) who gave it 5 stars are willing to back me up on that.

    Promising review: "I have eczema so my skin is super sensitive about everything that touches it, but I have great news, as it didn't burn me or leave me any damage! The feel: It feels great and is definitely runny. This could either be a bad thing or good thing for people as I know some people like it thick (this ain't it if you're looking for that). I'm using it for toys as it works great for it. I did notice that it does dry up but just by a little. So you don't have to worry about it drying up instantly after applying it as it definitely lasts through the session. This stuff can last a while as I barely pour much out of the bottle and it was enough to coat and get the job done. Would definitely recommend for anyone that likes lube that isn't super thick or needs lube for toys! Also for people who have eczema like me or sensitive skin." —Senpai Names

    Get it from Amazon for $6.99 (available in original and three flavors).

    3. A luxury silicone lubricant enriched with vitamin E for a moisturizing formula that dissolves, leaving skin soft and smooth.

    Uberlube bottle on blue background surrounded by smears
    Bottle of lubricant sitting on nightstand

    Überlube is fragrance- and flavor-free, so it fits into your routine effortlessly. It also comes in convenient travel-sized bottles for taking on the go. One reviewer even uses it to help prevent chafing on hot days!

    Promising reviews: "I've bought this five times, and this is my second review, over a year after the first. I will still never use any other lube ever again. It is, hands down, the best I've ever tried. It's perfect for erotic massage and pretty much every sexual activity. It's never sticky, it doesn't cause irritation, it doesn't taste like anything. It's expensive, but, at this point, it's a necessary expense." —Aurora

    "I found Überlube by searching for the best lube and found it on multiple lists. I have never purchased lube outside of Astroglide and that was 10 years ago. Überlube is more expensive than your drugstore brands and you can feel the difference! Because it's silicone-based it retains some friction and uses your body's natural wetness to continue lubricating after you apply it. It isn't so wet that there's zero friction. And the bottle is so pretty that you can leave it out. I had it out on my nightstand and was telling my friend about how amazing it is. She wanted to see for herself and asked where it was — it was right in front of her and she didn't notice. Do your body a favor and upgrade your lube. You'll be so happy you did!" —Lauren

    Get it from Amazon for $18.19+ (available in 1.69-oz. and 3.38-oz.)

    4. The OG Butters Lube designed with a vegan, oil-based formula that can be used in any and all your holes, as well as with your favorite toys and other body-safe materials, for slippery — never slick — fun.

    Model holding black and light blue tub of lubricant
    Model demonstrating melt point of lubricant
    The Butters Hygienics Co.

    Promising reviews: "This lube is amazing! My boyfriend is rather endowed and he’s my first. This lube made things easy and comfortable for sure." —Kai Welsh

    "Very slippery and long lasting, feels good in any hole. Zero irritation. Keep some dedicated rags handy for clean up and wash separately. Wipes right up off of skin easily. Good company and nice people. This is premium lube, get some." —eric reed

    Get it from The Butters Hygienics Co. for $3+.

    The Butters Hygienics Co. is a Black- and queer-owned business based in Michigan that creates products using simple ingredients and hand-crafted in the owner's kitchen. In true millennial fashion, they want you to be able to afford quality body products that do what the bottles say they do.

    5. A water-silicone hybrid lubricant that can be safely used with latex, rubber, and plastic, so no need to be afraid to pull out that battery-operated ABS plastic vibrator you bought as a teenager and have kept ever since for...nostalgia.

    Bottle of Naked Silk lubricant with pour top
    Bottle of lubricant with pump top

    Promising reviews: "I don't understand the reviews that say this gets sticky. It absolutely does not (ok, it never has for us). It will dry out but not in a gummy way. Have noticed that the closer you get to the bottom of the container, the less time it lasts. Has NO flavor or aftertaste so compatible with oral activities." —Roberto E. Arance

    "This is an amazing product. It feels very natural. I have tried many different lubricants and this one is my favorite hands down. There is no sticky residue, no smell, no itching or reaction with either my husband or I. We will continue to purchase and use this product in the future!" —Thetexascharmedlife

    Get it from Amazon for $12.99+ (available in three sizes).

    6. A powerful miniature wand vibrator created with supple silicone for a soft-touch feel and 20 functions to take you right to that blissful, blurry edge.

    Promising reviews: "Coming on here to write a review for this beloved object after my year anniversary with her. I'm not exaggerating when I say this vibrator has made me love life more than ever, I genuinely don't think I ever need the touch of a man ever again. It sends me to another dimension that I didn't even know existed. Please do yourself a HUGE favor and buy this for yourself. You will come back here and thank me. You are welcome." —Gk11111

    "I almost never write reviews but holy crap I have to write one for this. I’ve never bought a toy off Amazon but with all of my go to stores shut down, I figured I give it a shot. The reviews are here were fairly decent but I still was skeptical about buying a vibrator off here and didn’t actually think it would be that great. I was so wrong. Easily the best toy I have bought to date and the price is super reasonable. The charge lasts a long time for me, I use it about three to four times a week, and the vibrations are SO good. If you’re looking for a great toy for under $50, this is it." —Ellie Ray

    "Y’all.....I never do a review for anything but...This is amazing. Like literally amazing. I’ve discovered so much about my body with this tool.😭 Takes me to another level every time." —Tight gorilla grip

    Get it from Amazon for $19.95+ (available in seven colors).

    7. An all-natural arousal oil by Foria created with a blend of CBD and botanicals to help enhance sensation and pleasure.

    Brown bottle of Foria Awaken oil
    Model applying oil to body
    @foriawellness / Via, Foria

    I have a friend who swears on this arousal oil, and TBH I live vicariously through her sex life, so I believe it. You can apply as much as a full dropper of the coconut oil-based oil to your inner labia and/or vagina, and of course, your clitoris. This oil is also oral-friendly and safe to ingest...y'know, just in case.

    Promising reviews: "I was worried this would throw off my pH or feel weird to my partner because of the peppermint. Nope! And im pretty sensitive so I was surprised. If you're even thinking about it, just do it! Excellent!" —DSQ

    "I have a very low libido. Highly abnormal for my age but there isn't any real reason for it. I got this beautiful oil as a Fab Fit Fun add-on and it's LIFE CHANGING! Absolutely does EXACTLY what it says/claims. I genuinely expected to be disappointed but in the very least it's moisturizing so it couldn't hurt right? Absolutely friggin' right and I highly recommend it for EVERYONE!! Also, it's not something to boost already low libido or to assist with low desire disorder but it WILL make time with your lover even BETTER on so many levels!" —Wifeynd

    Get it from Madewell or Nordstrom for $48.

    8. An oral sex balm by Bijoux Indiscrets that offers a cooling and slippery enhancement for cunnilingus or fellatio and a sharp contrast against the warmth of a mouth.

    White tube of Slow Sex oral sex balm on model's body
    Bijoux Indiscrets

    Promising reviews: "I get chapped lips after going down on him. With this it's a whole new story: my lips are healthy and we both can enjoy oral." —Anonymous

    "The best BJ ever! :) Try it to believe it." —Anastasia M.

    Get it from Bijoux Indiscrets for $16.95.

    9. A petite precision bullet boasting silky silicone and seven vibration modes to tickle your fancy all over.

    Model holding black bullet vibrator
    Model holding pink bullet vibrator

    Promising review: "Exciting! Nice, soft, flexible massager. I used it for the first time and it exceeded my expectations. The vibration patterns are variable and the charging experience was easy and fast. I’m obsessed with how soft and brightly colored this device is. Thank you! I was going to wait to write a review after I had tried it a few times but this couldn't wait. This product is amazing for the price. At first I was skeptical because I'm used to higher end massagers but I was completely wrong, this massager is literally a game changer for me. Its light weight, powerful and easy to use. This massager is going to live in its clean velvet case in my bedside table for a long time. Thank you for a great product!! P.s. the massager has many different settings so it's easy to find your rhythm." —Patrese

    Get it from Amazon for $13.99 (available in four colors).

    10. A unique vibrator by Bellesa that's like your finger...but better, with 105 textured rods for extra stimulation and a flickering "tongue" with 10 intensities to deliver that simulated oral feeling.

    Pink finger vibrators stacked
    Model wearing finger vibrator
    @bellesaco / Via, @bellesaco / Via your finger, if it could move on double speed.

    Promising reviews: "I never write reviews, but this is def worth a review. This is my first toy ever, and I absolutely love it and cannot imagine doing it without it now. It’s so easy to use (even if this is new to you). There’s plenty of different vibrations and speeds to choose from. I absolutely love it and recommend this for sure! Takes little time, and it’s amazing!" —SO so worth it

    "I absolutely love the Finger Pro! It’s not too loud, and it is the perfect toy for solo play or with a partner. I love how easy it is to hold, and my partner and I love to use it! I 100% recommend!" —Dasha T.

    Preorder it from Bellesa Boutique for $59 (ships in 3-4 weeks).

    11. An oil-based, hemp-infused massage oil by Coconu that'll help you get in the mood for ~play~ whether you use it topically for extra stimulation or internally as a lubricant.

    Tube of white Coconu oil next to green box and spoon with coconut oil
    @coconu /

    Promising reviews: "I think this is my very first Amazon review and, wow! This is the absolutely best lube I have tried, and I think I have tried them all! I saw this brand Coconu all over Instagram and was excited to see they’re finally on Amazon for free shipping. The good stuff — it is SO moisturizing both externally and internally, absolutely perfect for every type of massage and intimate action. This is a serious game changer, it’s unlike any other of its kind on the market and you can see from the product photos that it’s completely natural!" —Marie

    "What a great product. It's a perfect consistency and really makes a difference. I've tried other brands, but I'm so impressed with this one. It's gentle and it's so comforting to know I'm using safe and natural ingredients. So glad to have found this." —RR

    Get it from Amazon for $39.99.

    12. A soft, wedge-shaped Pillo by Dame that supports all your favorite positions. Whether getting off alone or with a partner, this pillow will be there when you need it.

    Model stretch on indigo wedge pillow
    Pillow angled on couch for full view
    @dameproducts / Via, @dameproducts / Via

    This wedge-shaped pillow is designed with a machine-washable cotton cover and water-resistant lining in case things get a little messy. A handle on each side offers support no matter your favorite position.

    Promising reviews: "It’s really amazing how much of a difference this makes. We are a gay male couple and I wasn’t sure if the pillow would be good for same sex couples but it definitely is. The firmness is great for ALL positions. It surpassed my standards." —Leonardo D.

    "Quality made and good firmness. A pillow to use for more than good sex positions and support. Washable cover is a plus." —Patrice B.

    Get it from Dame for $95.

    13. The Halo cock ring from Bellesa with seven vibrating settings that'll help you share the good vibes with a partner.

    Model holding black cock ring

    Once you've found that hookup, FWB, f-buddy that makes you all cuckoo in the head and bed, you might start discussing ways to amplify your already A1 sexual compatibility. Well, this gem fits discreetly in a pocket or purse and is designed to share good vibes all around.

    Promising reviews: "5/5 Would gain magic dick vibrating powers again." —Dan

    "I had been scoping this for a few months and finally pulled the trigger. Umm… wow. I was excited to try it, and my partner was indifferent. We added it to our rhythm, and once in place my partner's eyes got wide, and her response was, “Well…that’s new.” Needless to say, only a few minutes later she was very sold on it and has asked for it every time since. Personally I’m a fan, too, lasting longer, feeling harder, and that vibration…ain’t nothing wrong with that. Highly recommended." —Kurt D.

    Get it from Bellesa Boutique for $89 (available in purple and black).

    14. The Hex luxury latex condom by Lelo that's designed with a unique hexagonal structure to provide flexibility and strength during use.

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    Infographic of condom

    They also have an XL version with the same design!

    Promising review: "Got these because the ones we were using kept rolling, but after using these my partner didn't even have to worry about grabbing the base as they pulled out since the condom was such a great fit and didn't even roll throughout the duration! My partner also states that these felt way better then the regular Durex ones we normally use." —bobalcazaer

    "Pros for vagina-havers & bottoms: feels better cause it doesn’t slip around as much aka irritate your parts. Sometimes condoms can slip around a bit and chafe and that seems to be resolved with the snug fit of these. Pros for penis-havers & tops: Thinner than ultra thins, a snug fit without pinching or cutting off any blood flow, feels good to wear as it forms to the shape of you, rather than just kinda being a mostly fitting bag that gets put on over your junk." —Yoshi Yui

    Get it from Amazon for $9.26+ (available in three pack sizes).

    15. An ultrathin and ultrasoft nonlatex condom by Skyn that'll help maximize pleasure and comfort without having to worry about an allergic reaction.

    Black and purple box of condoms
    Infographic of condom

    These popular nonlatex condoms also have a larger- and wider-size counterpart!

    Promising reviews: "I feel there are several benefits to these condoms. They seem to stretch more than latex, making them easier to put on than latex condoms. Because these aren't latex, there's no risk to developing a latex allergy over time (depending on how much you use them). They're very soft and thin. I honestly don't think I've ever used a condom that allowed me to forget I had it on until these came along. This has become my new condom of preference." —C. Wood (on the Elite)

    "These feel great with more room! :D Other brands feel quite constricting or, even worse, they leave behind a certain latex smell that definitely lets everyone in the room know your business. But with Skyn :O they are just...a joy to wear; you feel a bit more and they are easier to wear and put on and they smell great, too, ooh la la." —huskandhunger (on the Elite Large)

    Get it from Amazon for $15.38.

    16. Orrr a comfortable latex condom for those who are endowed above average and sick of dealing with condoms that suffocate their girth.

    Gold box of Lifestyles Kyng large condoms

    This XL form of protection boasts a comfortable flared shape with a reservoir tip to help catch those swimmers. Check out this list of the best external condoms if you want more options!

    Promising reviews: "Hello, all, after using this product for a couple weeks I can say it is my recommended choice for those fellas who are above average. I notice a smoother and more relaxed motion when putting it on. Most condoms I have used in the past require a bit of force to fully put on, unlike this one. For a comparison I can say it is better than Trojan Magnums both in quality and durability." —Zach Rodgers

    "These are not quite as snug as regular condoms, which made for a more comfortable fit. They don't seem any longer. Also, there is no noticeable latex smell." —S Hernandez

    Get it from Amazon for $10.93.

    17. An oh-so-convenient Ohnut set constructed with a stretchy, body-safe material to fit your favorite penis or dildo and offer extra cushioning during penetration...just in case your eyes are bigger than your orifices!

    Model demonstrating use of light green silicone rings
    Model holding four dark green silicone rings in hands
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    This unique wearable is designed to help people manage pain and customize penetration depth (depending on the number of rings worn) without sacrificing sensation. Though it's stretchy, Ohnut is designed in two sizes: Classic and Wider, which can be determined based on condom sizing!

    Promising review: "I bought these because my wife looked into them and thought they'd be a good idea to make sex a little bit better for her and hopefully still as good for me. Thankfully after purchasing and trying them out, I can say they are worth every penny! My wife is more satisfied and happier to have sex, and I still feel amazing as well. The Ohnuts don't take any longer to put on than a condom if you stack them prior (stack them's awkward stacking while they're on), and they give you the feeling of deeply penetrating without hurting your spouse, who can now focus on enjoying sex instead of embracing pain. They are also really easy to clean and come with a small cloth bag to place them in if you don't want to have side conversations about Ohnuts, which is entirely up to you. Overall, I 100% would recommend." —Q.D.

    Get it from Ohnut (available in jade and aloe) or Amazon for $65 (only available in jade/classic).

    Ohnut Co. is a women-founded wellness company that believes in ending the cycle of silence and discomfort, so people can rediscover the joy of connection.

    18. The OG Magic Wand that's been delivering *relief* to loyal users for decades with two rumbly speeds and a simple single switch.

    Hitachi Magic Wand Original
    Hitachi Magic Wand Plus
    Hitachi Magic Wand Rechargeable
    Hitachi Magic Wand Mini
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    The OG Magic Wand is also formerly known as the Hitachi, just to avoid confusion. The same beloved classic is now available in Plus (an upgraded, corded version with multiple speeds), Rechargeable (cordless version with multiple speeds) and Mini (a travel-friendly, cordless version).

    Promising reviews: "I had the original magic wand for a long time but was sad that it only had 2 speeds. I bought this because I liked the idea of a magic wand without a cord and with different settings. I was worried it wouldn't be as powerful as the original wand. It's actually better! With the different speeds and settings you can pick how powerful it is, even as powerful as the original. And so far the battery life has been pretty great." —A. Stott (on Rechargeable)

    "I broke my vibrator two weeks ago. I've had that vibrator for many years. It was very sad. So, I decided to try the Hitachi out because of the reviews. It came today...and so did I. This thing is better than my last vibrator. Actually, I didn't realize I had started it out on the lower setting. Nothing was 'happening' and I was getting a little worried. Turned the switch to the high setting and . . . hello! It is a bit noisy but nothing like my last vibrator. Ladies, I would never recommend a battery operated device. They just don't cut it. And guys, my husband always says, the best gift a man can give his lady is a corded vibrator. He even rigged a nice little outlet in my 'naughty' drawer so it will always be ready. Now the attachments. I've never been one for attachments usually because they are just too small and don't do anything for me. However, the attachments for the Hitachi are substantial. I'll be using those from now on. I love my Hitachi!!" —D. Novak (on Original)

    Get it from Amazon $54.99+ (available in four styles).

    19. A very convenient anal training set, stocked with a beginner-friendly plug, a vibrating plug, and a weighted plug. Along with the toys, it includes a comprehensive guide to anal sex, a lube applicator, travel bag, and an enema to help you prep and keep things clean.

    Components of set laid out

    This set is perfect for anyone interested in experimenting with anal, whether beginner or expert level.

    Promising review: "This kit made me comfortable and confident enough to try anal again. I had attempted it with a past partner years ago, and we did it ALL wrong. Fast forward a couple of years: I have a patient and knowledgeable partner, and I'm ready to try again. That's when I found this anal training kit, and let me tell you, it is well worth the money. Not only are the butt plugs of exceptional quality, but the Anal Guide is extremely informative. After using only the first two sizes of butt plugs, I'm having anal sex. Apprehension and fear have been lifted, and a whole new world of pleasure has taken its place. I'm seriously beyond grateful to have had such a comforting and helpful tool to introduce me to the magic of anal and butt play in general. Take it from me, if you're nervous but want to explore the pleasure your butthole has to offer, invest in this kit — or any of their beginner products for that matter." —Allyson

    Get it from B-Vibe for $159.99.

    20. A water-based lubricant specifically designed for booty play and mimicking natural lubrication with a flavorless and fragrance-free formula.

    Promising reviews: "Wow! This product blew my mind! It is PERFECT for anal intercourse. I typically use silicone-based lube, but the cleanup is a disaster. This lube was not only a better quality than silicone lube, but the cleanup was a breeze. I have been disappointed many times by lube but this was definitely not one of them. We didn’t need to reapply a lot like with other water-based lubes and it doesn’t dry and get all sticky. I will be a lifelong customer. Buy this lube!" —Kassidy Singh

    "This stuff is great for anal sex and easy to clean off, it has no flavor according to my gf and has no scent either." —Joshua Janey

    Get it from Amazon for $8.24+ (available in 8-oz and 32-oz sizes).

    21. A stimulating anal lubricant boasting an extra-thick, water-based formula that'll last way after the arousal stage.

    Models holding Jelle Heat and Jelle Chill
    @wickedsensualcare / Via

    The Jelle Heat and Chill formulas are both latex-friendly and enhanced with olive leaf extract for an always slippery, never sticky experience. So you already know you want/enjoy anal, now the question is: do you want cooling tingles or a warming sensation?

    Get it from Amazon for $9.81+ (available in Heat and Chill).

    22. A dual cock ring designed with stretchy silicone to help your penis-packing partner stay harder for longer, so you both get yours.