10 Things You Need To Understand About Introverts

A guide to understanding your hermit of a friend

1. Understand that we may not always want to go out

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Yes, we like the inside and yes we know this is the second day in a row that we haven't been outside but its ok. We will come out when we want to. Forcing us to go out usually just creates a bad mood.

2. We hate the sun

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It's hot, we're sweaty, and all we want to do is sit down with air conditioning. Sometimes it gets so hot that we are angry at absolutely nothing and just want to go back inside, curl up to our computer and be alone.

3. The phrase "I Hate People" is used more often than not

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More often than not, most of the population pisses us of. There are select few people we like and even then we need a break from them sometimes. It's not you, it's me. I get annoyed quickly when I'm surrounded by ignorance or stupidity.

4. Just because we stay inside doesn't mean it's not a good day for us

We have some of the most relaxing and best days when we are by ourselves; read a book, write, watch movies or surf the internet for hours drinking wine is a great day and we didn't even have to go outside.

5. Doing nothing is awesome

Doing nothing sounds great, you know what doesn't sound great? Having to spend hours getting ready for an event or hangout. Sometimes, with work and stress we unwind in different ways, just because your way may be going out and getting hammered doesn't mean that it is the same for us.

6. Killing the misconception that we never want to go out

Yes invite your hermit friend, the invite is always better than nothing because on occasion we'll say yes. Just because we enjoy our alone time doesn't mean we never want to see you or be friends with you. Please don't give the excuse "you never want to go out" as an excuse to not invite or hang out with us anymore.

7. When we get mad, we may shut down.

This is a bad habit that needs to end. When we are upset, our internal caveman wants to do nothing but crawl back inside and not come out. Depending on the situation, it may or may not be your job to say something first, but don't be surprised if we ice you out for a day or so.

8. Come and hang out...at home

A day in our life is relaxing at home, if you want to hang out with your hermit of a friend try staying in with them for time to time just as they go out with you.

9. We are used to being in control

We hate being responsible for others, so we prefer to study or work alone. When other people are involved they either tend to slack off their part or one person wants to control everything. When we are in control, we don't have to worry about anyone else's work but our own.

10. We may love you, but hate them

If you make plans with us and plan on bring other people give us a heads up first, or ask. We may love you and want to catch up with you, but when you start putting other people into the mix we may not feel as comfortable saying what's on our minds or what's going on in our lives because someone we either don't know that well or like is there. Just because they are your friend, doesn't mean they are ours.