My Boyfriend Doesn’t Think Platonic Relationships With The Opposite Gender Should Exist While In A Relationship — Is He Right?

"Out of [our] discussion, he announced that he was not comfortable with me creating close friendships with other guys, especially if it included hanging out with them one-on-one."

My boyfriend and I are relocating in a few months, and I had discussed with him my plans to expand my social connections once moving.

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I wanted to make lots of new friends and fill my schedule with activities. He is not a very social person outside of his immediate circle, but he understood that social activities are important to me. However, he did not understand why I wanted to expand my friend group so much when I already established a close group of “girl friends” from our current location. 

Out of this discussion, he announced that he was not comfortable with me creating close friendships with other guys, especially if it included hanging out with them one-on-one.

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His reasoning was that subconsciously, it’s human nature to want sex regardless of the circumstances.

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In the instance that I have a close guy friend, he believed that the guy would only be friends with me in a subconscious effort to hook up with me. He also believed that anyone in a fulfilling, romantic relationship wouldn't see the need to have an opposite-gendered friend.

His views honestly made me a little sad. I argued that a friend is a friend regardless of their gender.

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What makes up a great friend has entirely to do with their character and nothing to do with their gender. I told him you can gain many great things from amazing people outside of a romantic aspect. 

Perhaps it is foolish of me to believe that people of the opposite gender want a friendship without some type of subconscious effort to eventually hook up, but it's truly what I think.

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I am curious to know what you think: are platonic relationships with the opposite gender possible, and are they still "okay" if one of the friends are in a relationship? Or does everyone, at some point, just want the romantic aspect?