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    Here's How You Can Avoid Having Any Awkward Conversations This Holiday Season

    Let the uncomfortable chatter begin.

    With the holidays officially in full swing, 'tis the season for all the get-togethers and gatherings with extended family, in-laws and friends.

    Don Folger, Judd Hirsch and Sean Giambrone in The Goldbergs

    Recently we asked the BuzzFeed Community to share any tips to avoid those inevitable awkward conversations that come up this time of year. Here's what they had to say (along with a few other useful suggestions):

    1. "Shut it down immediately and loudly like a PSA. I got tired of my family asking when I was going to get a boyfriend and announced to the whole room that I would not be acknowledging those types of questions any longer. I haven't been asked about dating in four years."

    Lucy Davis in Chilling Adventures of Sabrina

    2. Walk away and fill up your plate with some seconds. It's hard to have a convo when your mouth is full of food.

    Rachel Bloom in Crazy Ex-Girlfriend

    3. "When you change a subject, [keep it] changed. Refuse to engage in it again. Act like you didn't hear the comment [or] callback. Any continued attempts to re-engage through the night? Ignore them like you never heard 'em."

    Neil Patrick Harris, Josh Radnor and Jason Segel in How I Met Your Mother

    4. Go pour yourself a drink to quietly sip on.

    Kym Whitley and Angela Bassett in Master of None

    5. "I think it's the way you construct your comeback that can really make all the difference. You don't have to be mean or anything, but you can still make the point without resorting to cussing [or] blowing up."

    The Cleveland Show

    6. "The last time I was asked for the millionth time in front of the entire family why I wasn't seeing anyone and/or didn't bring them to Thanksgiving by my extremely annoying busybody aunt I said: 'I really think being in a relationship would put a damper on all the orgies.' The good news is I haven't been asked back since, so win-win."

    Ty Burrell in Modern Family

    7. Start a conversation with someone else you're more comfortable with.

    Marsha Mason, Patricia Heaton, Molly Shannon and Eden Sher in The Middle

    8. Help out in the kitchen or start cleaning up the dishes once dinner is over.

    Matt LeBlanc, Lisa Kudrow, Courteney Cox, David Schwimmer, Matthew Perry and Jennifer Aniston in Friends

    9. "Whenever I want to change the subject with problematic family members I chime in with the phrase, 'actually, you just reminded me,' and pivot to a lighter topic that abstractly connects (even if the connection is weak)."

    Leslie Jordan, David Alan Grier, Jamie Farr, Martin Mull and Vicki Lawrence in The Cool Kids

    10. "Don’t have Thanksgiving dinner with your family."

    Dan Cortese, Kathy Najimy, Lupe Ontiveros, Daryl Mitchell and Wallace Langham in Veronica's Closet

    11. Chill out and watch the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade.

    Santa float in the Macy's Thanksgiving Day Parade 2021

    12. "When confronted with a judgmental or critical statement/question about your life, don't try to defend yourself or choices because people like that are always going to be willing to twist your words."

    Lea Catania, Julien Heron and Louie Anderson in Baskets

    13. "My family doesn't have awkward conversations at the dinner table because we were raised to have healthy discussion about politics and religion, and we don't take things personally when relatives we haven't seen in ages ask us about our lives. We answer them."

    Carlos Lacamara, Meeghan Holaway, Luke Bracey and Aimee Carrero in Holidate

    How have you successfully avoided awkward holiday convos before? Share your experience in the comments!

    Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.