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People Who've Been Married For 20+ Years, What's Your "Unspoken Rule" For A Successful Marriage?

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Who doesn't love a happily ever after story? But what we don't always see is the work it takes to get there (you know, once the honeymoon phase is long over).

Channing Tatum and Rachel McAdams dressed up to get married in The Vow

Couples who have been married for 20+ years, I want to hear from you! What's your "unspoken rule" for a successful marriage?

Dustin Hoffman and Barbra Streisand sitting at a table with wine in Meet the Fockers

Maybe you've learned to leave the past in the past and not dwell on old arguments.

Sharon Leal and Tyler Perry standing next to each other in Why Did I Get Married Too?

Perhaps you know little things like cooking your S.O.'s favorite meal or saying "good morning" can actually be pretty big?

Diane Keaton and Jack Nicholson about to kiss in Something's Gotta Give

Or, maybe you and your partner always carve out time to check in with each other and have a real one-on-one convo before the day is over?

Joaquin Phoenix and Reese Witherspoon holding hands in Walk the Line

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