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17 Ways To Help Someone Through The First Year Of Widowhood

They need your love to survive such a crushing loss.

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2. Help With the Small Stuff


Whether it’s a trip to the post office, emptying the dishwasher, or changing a lightbulb, offer to do it. Your friend is dealing with so much; helping with the seemingly minor stuff is pretty major.

4. Be Their Uber


When their kid(s) need to get to and from soccer practice, a birthday party, or even the school bus, graciously offer a ride. The small ways in which a spouse is missing — like sharing chauffeur duty — hits hard. Extra points for making the car ride fun!


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There is usually a ton of paperwork when a loved one dies. Helping your friend sort through medical bills, insurance claims, even day-to-day mail, helps!

7. Kindly Suggest Therapy

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Spending an hour crying, cursing, and screaming is par for the course, but in the hands of a grief specialist or support group, your friend will realize that their feelings are perfectly valid…and that they aren't the only one to experience such a major loss.

8. Share Some Mindless Entertainment

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From reality TV to the trashy mags in the supermarket checkout line, mindless entertainment offers a reprieve from the surreal reality your friend is now living.


9. Happy Holidays!

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It's not just the November/December holidays that can be devastating. Valentine's Day, Father's/Mother's Day, the Fourth of July…they are all soul-crushing. Reach out to your friend, tell them the time and place and not to bring anything but themselves.

10. Don't Hold Back

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Your friend still wants to hear about your mean boss, what you had for dinner last night, and the vacation you have planned. Hearing the details of your life helps them get on with theirs.


14. Routine’s Rule

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Once the shock wears off, helping your friend get back to their routine helps them get back to living their life. Even if it's just the morning walk around the block with the dog — starting small is a big step!

16. Support Sometimes Means Space

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Sometimes being there for your friend means giving them some space, and don't take it personally when they ask for it. Some days, checking in via phone or text may be all the support they need.