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This Non-Traditional Wedding Will Hit You Right In The Feels

Justin and Simon wanted a wedding that would blend their different backgrounds, cultures, and traditions. They got all of that and more.

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Their backgrounds, upbringings, and stances on things like politics and religion? Totally different.

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Simon's from the U.K.; Justin hails from North Carolina. When they first met, Simon was a grad student, while Justin was coming off tours in Iraq and Afghanistan with the Marines.

"It was an interesting challenge," Justin told BuzzFeed Life, of planning the big day. "But we agree on more than we disagree — and we certainly learned a lot from each other in the process."

On their big day, Justin wore his Marine Blues, and Simon donned a traditional Indian Sherwani.

"I had my heart set on it the same way a bride might have [a] vision of the perfect dress," Simon told BuzzFeed Life. "Got it tailored, spent far too much money on it, but I felt like a Maharaja when I put it on. I'm still looking for excuses to wear it."


When much of Simon's family wasn't able to make it over from the U.K., they Skyped them in.

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"My dad was at the front of the ceremony the entire way through holding up my smartphone to Skype with my grandmother, aunt, and two brothers back home in England. They watched the entire thing," Simon said. "Who knew you could get enough signal on the National Mall?"

They say getting to that point comes down to one thing: A willingness to compromise, even when differences threaten to get in the way.

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When the pair realized they were very split over who should officiate the ceremony — Justin wanted a reverend; Simon wanted to keep it secular — they talked through every alternative, before asking a close friend to do the honors.


But ultimately, they say, any differences turned out to be a good thing. Freeing, even.

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"One of the lucky things about having a non-traditional wedding — a same-sex couple, one of us being non-religious, coming from two very different backgrounds — is that we weren't fixed down by any particular traditions or cultural norms," the couple told Washingtonian. "We were able to really do whatever we wanted."