4."Spicy bedroom stuff definitely involves major feelings or the potential to catch feels. I did it before. Won’t do it again. Also, it’s way hotter slowly falling into that type of stuff in a secure loving relationship."
5."If we were not officially in a relationship, I would not come to them in my time of emotional need or if there was a crisis basically. I'm not going to lean on someone in my time of need unless I know that they are strong enough to support me first."
8."I wouldn't become official with anyone when I hadn't met their family and they'd be offered the same opportunity. Don't get me wrong, I'm not introducing anyone to them! Just those who we are talking to about moving our relationship forward and becoming official, etc. For me, it's an experience thing: Those partners who've screwed me around were often putting barriers in between our friends / family / social lives, and looking back, I realize the way they behave would be frowned upon by them."
12."Anything that would permanently alter my day-to-day or other personal relationships (siblings, friends, parents, kids). So no loaning money, no holidays, no meeting kids for at least six months of serious dating. Same for family. No moving in together before a year, no getting them a job where I work, etc."
14."Share my food. We would have to be strong in our relationship for me to let you eat from my plate and touch my food."
15."And frankly, if it's only dating and not an actual relationship, I'll put in some effort to talk. And I am a very honest person so I'll show interest and share my feelings, but I will NOT divulge personal information or talk about past trauma. I need to feel safe with someone before being able to truly open up about my past."
17."Be loyal and exclusive to them. I’m not loyal unless there’s a commitment and I know they’re loyal to me. I don’t stay up texting them after 12 a.m. until it’s official. I’m not going to ruin my sleep schedule for a guy who doesn’t even know if he wants to actually be with me. Ugh, never again."