OK, so if Carly Simon sang 'You're so paranoid, I bet you think this song is about you' how many of us would be like, oh yeah...shit, how did she know?
People call Donald Trump a narcissist....without having met him...and that's....well that's pretty accurate I reckon...(disclaimer - that's not a professional diagnosis!)
But you, spending just as long as him looking in the mirror. Only you're desperate to find a half-decent angle and conceal your imperfect nose / little red mark / bumpy cellulite. Is that the same as a vanity trip?
Well no, it's not. Because the thought patterns aren't 'look at me, I'm so great' they're more, 'ugh, how can I take a decent selfie so that people don't mock me?'.
Of course, there's a heap of healthy stuff in the middle too - taking selfies because you feel good about yourself - and that's good for you. Why the hell not?
But there's a great big grand canyon between narcissism and anxiety or low self esteem. It's just that sometimes the behaviours look the same.
'I'm scared everyone is talking about me' is not the same as 'Come on, more people should be talking about the great wondrous giant orange thing that is me!'.