We've all had plenty of times where we've heard someone say something, and one thought runs through your head as a result: "Huh. I got a bad feeling about this."
U/nickeyjames recently asked the people of Reddit, "What is a phrase someone says that is an instant red flag?" If you don't recognize these as things you've already heard, maybe you should just make sure you're not saying them yourself:
1. "I'm brutally honest, that's just who i am."
2. "Do you know who I am?"
3. "'I'm an alpha!' No tf you're not."
4. "'I have no filter.' Nope, you’re just rude."
5. "'If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.' Translation: I will be a dick to people because I'm entitled."
—u/triple_hoop
6. "'All my exes are crazy!' While I'm sure there are some people who are very unlucky in romance, most of the time it just means the person takes no accountability for the failings of their relationships."
7. "Trust me, I am not like the others."
8. "We are like a family here."
—u/igenus44
9. "Just hung out with a girl last night that I thought might be a potential new friend, but she said she loves fighting with people and pissing them off. She said this in the context of another girl she was working with who was irritating her, so she was intentionally saying things to get to her. I already got slightly weird vibes from her from the start that made me feel uncomfortable around her, but that kinda confirmed where they were coming from and made me realize I will probably keep a safe distance."
10. "It's because I'm a Scorpio/Pisces/etc."
11. "I'm not racist, but..."
—u/ladystaggers
12. "'I have many superpowers.' On my ex’s online dating profile. Making me cum was not one of them."
13. "'I’m an empath'. Every single time someone says that they later turn out to be anything but. Real empaths don’t go around advertising."
14. "I’m a disruptor."
15. "I'm always right."
—u/Noswe
16. "Emotional abuse isn't real."
17. "'You have to earn my respect.' Great, so your default is just to be mean to people?"
18. "'Either you trust me or you don't.' It's a bullshit statement. All trust is NOT the same. There are lots of kinds and levels of trust, and trying to bootstrap from one to the other with some flimsy guilt trip is dishonest."
—u/ZenRage
19. "'Sorry, not sorry.' So you're just a condescending piece of shit then."
—u/TildaTinker
20. "'I'm a real man.'"
Agree? Disagree? Have your own additions? See you in the comments!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.