Maybe you've just met someone new, or maybe you're re-evaluating a relationship from a different perspective. Either way, we've all found ourselves in that position where we've thought about someone we know, Are they a...good person?
1. "Every time you interact with them, you feel worse than before."
—u/simtyhopcc
2. "They tell small lies — the kind you might pick up on and not mention, because it’s not anything big, but when added up, they can completely change the context of a situation."
3. "They are very concerned with making sure you know they're a good person."
4. "They tell you things about their other ‘friends’ that they should keep between them. It also means they’re telling your business to someone else."
—u/Elliezzzzzz
5. "Talking about how all their friends left them or that they were kicked out of multiple friend groups. It keeps happening for a reason."
6. "How they treat the person serving them at dinner."
—u/SJ548
7. "When they apologize during a conflict, they get angry if that doesn't immediately end the conflict because they never truly felt sorry, and their only goal was to escape repercussions. This will become evident when the behavior they had apologized for keeps happening and never improves."
—u/archaeren
8. "They always assume the worst motivations of anyone. I had a friend who was a complete douche. If you complained about someone who did something innocently that happened to annoy you, he would tell you all about how the person was purposely screwing with you."
—u/jackfaire
9. "They often talk about how they don’t like to live in the past. I was surrounded by abusers for a long period of my life, and I noticed they regularly like to assert that their decision to refuse to acknowledge past wrongs and things that have harmed them is a good one and somehow makes them a good person."
10. "If they say shit like, 'Sometimes, I wonder if I'm a bad person, but then, I realize that a bad person would never question if they were bad, so I must be a good person!' Questioning if you are a bad person does not automatically make you a good person. Bad people are PERFECTLY capable of questioning whether or not they are bad. The difference between a good person and a bad person is not which one questions themselves, but which one gives themselves a free pass."
—u/archaeren
11. "They don't listen."
—u/atlasholdme
12. "Being dishonest in small party games or board games."
13. "Anything you say to them can and will be used against you, but subtly."
—u/kookycandies
14. "People who easily criticize others but never criticize themselves, don't display doubts or fears about their own activities. Or, if they do it, they only do it in a joking and extremely exaggerated way ('humbragging'). An inability of being critical about themselves is a telltale sign of an asshole."
—u/TheGreatButz
15. "When they use religion as a reason to put other people down."
—u/spiffyga
16. "Anybody that gaslights! Anybody that does something wrong to you and then makes you look like the bad person for saying something or retaliating."
17. "They have a sense of humor that somehow just makes people feel bad about themselves."
18. "They cut in line."
—u/deeroc420
19. "They disregard you often."
20. "You see them mistreat others. If you see this, know that it will eventually be your turn to be on the receiving end."
Agree? Disagree? Have your own additions? See you in the comments!
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.