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Don't force them to talk about it.
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Don't try to be the "fix" for their depression. They probably aren't looking for a fix... just support and understanding.
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Remember that just because you are dating them does not mean they will automatically be happier or "cured."
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And keep in mind that someone who is depressed can be happy at times, and feel helpless at other times.
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Let them know that it's OK to feel sad, down, and anything else. Just allow them to feel.
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Try not to offer up "easy solutions" like exercising more, or appreciating what they have.
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Don't let their depression walk all over you. Set boundaries and stick to them and know when to throw in the towel.
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Know that the state of their mental health is not indicative of the state of your relationship.
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Give them their alone time, and give yourself alone time, too.
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For every negative thought they have, challenge them to think of a real, positive thought.
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And if they prefer to talk to someone else, or a therapist over you, don't take it personally.
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Try to redirect their focus.
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If they're seeing a therapist, go to a session together.
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Remember to take care of yourself first. Seriously. You can only be strong for them, after you're strong for yourself first.
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Urge them to seek professional help if they are not receiving any.
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Find a group, either in person or online, of others battling depression with their partners.
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Create a code word for when they really need you to be understanding, or need to remove yourself from a social situation.
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And don't feel like you always have to say something. Just be there.
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