The dark side of communication is any aversive behavior that makes a person feel stressed, uncomfortable, or victimized (Kowalski, 1997). An aversive behavior can be situational and depends on the victim. When determining if a behavior is aversive, it is important to ask these four questions: Does the behavior interfere with needs? Does the behavior involve social confrontation? Is the behavior appropriate? Is the behavior ambiguous? (Class Notes, Perceptions of Aversiveness, 9/5/17). It is the victim’s responsibility to find if the specific behavior is considered to be the dark side of communication. In this article, there will be a focus on aversive behaviors in long distance romantic relationships. The order of the problems listed below will go from most problematic to least problematic.