Handling Disagreements In Relationships With SO

Using the art of war to make relationships less stressful when you and your significant other are not getting along.

Handling Disagreements In Relationships With SO

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First of all only fight the battle you have to, if it is not important or won't matter tomorrow let it go.

" When there are no other alternatives, they will fight." [11.26]

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When an argument does happen walk away, take some time to think about what you are arguing. Do not just start ranting in the moment you will not like the results.

"Before doing battle, one calculates in the temple and will win, because many calculations were made; before doing battle, one calculates in the temple but will lose, because few calculations were made." [01.18]

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After you have thought about what you want to say, do not go to significant other and bring up other things. Only argue about the original topic, no point of taking this out of control.

"Therefore, on dispersive ground, do not do battle."[11.05]

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While in the argument stay calm no matter what is said. Try not to take to heart harsh things that may be said.

"He who is quick tempered can be insulted."[08.13]

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Do NOT continue to have the same fights over again! If nothing changes it isn't worth it. Just move on.

"The common and the uncommon produce each other, like an endless circle. Who can comprehend them?"[5.07]

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Not all fights have to be big. Some can be small or large just know which one it is and how to handle it.

"One who knows how to use both large and small forces will be victorious." [03.19]

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If you know each other very well then don't sweat it you will know how to win. You just have to think about how you will react and how he/she will react and figure out how to say what needs to be said or done.

"One who knows the enemy and knows himself will not be in danger in a hundred battles.One who does not know the enemy but knows himself will sometimes win, sometimes lose. One who does not know the enemy and does not know himself will be in danger in every battle."[03.23&24]

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If you know saying something will only hurt your argument or someones feelings and won't help and just make things worse then just do not say it. Sometimes saying less is more.

"In warfare, numbers may not necessarily be an advantage; do not advance aggressively."[09.40]

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But never give up on a fight. Fight for your point until the end. Stand up for yourself because if it was worth the fight at the start it is worth it till the end.

"Therefore, the nature of the army is: To defend when surrounded, to fight hard when there are no other alternatives, and to obey commands promptly when in danger."[11.55]

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And no matter how bad it gets or how long the fight lasts all things come to an end eventually.

"Those angry will be happy again, and those wrathful will be cheerful again, but a destroyed nation cannot exist again, the dead cannot be brought back to life."[12.12]