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    8 Things "The Ultimatum" Got Right, And 8 It Got So, So Wrong

    Every reality dating show has its flaws.

    The Ultimatum is Nick and Vanessa Lachey's newest "social experiment" reality dating show on Netflix, and it's a delightful mess.

    THE ULTIMATUM: MARRY OR MOVE ON, from left: hosts Nick Lachey, Vanessa Lachey, (Season 1, aired Apr. 6 & 13, 2022)

    Couples who have issued each other ultimatums on getting married sign up to essentially trade partners for three weeks, then get back with each other to reevaluate their relationship.

    But in spite of all the mess, the show did actually get some things right.

    1. Right — Opening up participants' eyes to the other kinds of people out there whose goals and communication style might match theirs.

    2. Wrong — Lauren and Nathan skirting the challenge without talking about their issues.

    April says "That's neglecting the issue that you guys seriously have"

    3. Right — Showcasing the humanity of the participants and not making anyone a "villain" in production.

    THE ULTIMATUM: MARRY OR MOVE ON, from left: Randall Griffin, Hunter Parr, Isaiah Wilson, (Season 1, aired Apr. 6 & 13, 2022)

    4. Wrong — Not having therapists or love coaches help the participants through their issues.

    Contestants on Too Hot To Handle sit around a table

    5. Right — Forcing couples to live together before getting married.

    April says "This is a shit show, it will be the longest three weeks of my life"

    6. Wrong — Allowing cheating to occur outside of the experiment.

    7. Right — Randall's refusal to take his physical relationship with Madlyn to the next level.

    Madlyn looks upset and walks ahead of Randall

    8. Wrong — Encouraging excessive drinking.

    Madlyn says "take a pregnancy test and drink some fucking alcohol"

    9. Right — Jake letting go of April.

    THE ULTIMATUM: MARRY OR MOVE ON, (Season 1, aired Apr. 6 & 13, 2022)

    10. Wrong — Colby turning a proposal into a surprise wedding.

    THE ULTIMATUM: MARRY OR MOVE ON, (Season 1, aired Apr. 6 & 13, 2022)

    11. Right — Zay and Rae separating.

    THE ULTIMATUM: MARRY OR MOVE ON, Isaiah Wilson (left), (Season 1, aired Apr. 6 & 13, 2022)

    12. Wrong — Lack of intervention from producers when a domestic dispute occurred.

    Rae sits by an elevator and says, "I was so pissed when he came home, I literally punched him"

    13. Right — Accepting that the outcome of "marry or move on," like the show's title suggests, is not realistic.

    THE ULTIMATUM: MARRY OR MOVE ON, Randall Griffin (left)

    14. Wrong — Participants comparing their relationships to others', because no two relationships are the same.

    15. Right — Rae not blaming Shanique for Zay's dishonesty about their physical relationship.

    Rae says "You told Randall and Zay should have told me"

    16. Wrong — Preying on participant's insecurities.

    What do you think The Ultimatum got right? What was the biggest mishap? Let us know in the comments!